When I first came to this site I was a reck.Everyone here has been so supportive and helpful and I want to thank you all!!!!! When I first found out they wanted to send difficult child to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) I was a mess. I wanted to do anything I could to "save" him from that, I thought how am I going to see him, how far will it be, how will I get by... Now with him coming home for a 8 hour visit on Sunday I'm a reck again. The stress of this visit is driving me nuts. He tells me when he gets home he wants to this and that, but not one word about spending time with his family (the family who has been there) It's still all about him. it is all about him though. It's all about him getting the help HE needs and the healing of the family left behind. Sometimes just talking to him on the phone is a chore. I just wait to hear the staff in the back round say "times up" I went from crying and saddness for being away from my son to dreading him coming home for a 8 hour visit. I'm going to let the visit take place to see how it goes, and I'll let you all know. I'm sure all you been there done that parents know how the visit will go and your probably grinning right now So I have come to the conclusion not to fight to bring him home, it would not be the right thing to do. He needs to be somewhere where he can miss his family for a while and get help. He needs to realize home wasn't so bad after all. If it works that's great if not he will be 18 in May 2008 he will most likely get fitted for a county suit. He needs to see the path he was on is just a long empty road with no end or at least an end with a sudden stop. THANK YOU ALL FOR LISTENING, I JUST NEEDED TO CHAT FOR AWHILE.