Just read this. Was reading a very interesting article about a totally different topic, but it was a thoughtful article. And this jolted me. I have felt self blame. After thinking about it, I agree that it is actually a lot poor me, self pity when I have done it. In the context of our kids, is it "Im upset that things are not the way I want them. I must not have done enough. I am a bad parent" self pity? I dont kow, in this context....just my thoughts.