Hi! Some of you may remember me from a few months back, others may not. So first I'd like to send a well wish to all in the hopes that things are going smoothly. I have not been able to go back and read all the comments and catch up on what I've missed. I did however, read a few that were recently posted before i began here tonite. I want to say that just reading that you all have similar feelings and issues calms me down a bit-thank you! But the real reason for my post is questions. I have always been a "why" person. I need to understand "why" things work, not how or what they're called, but "why". So-how do you all fight the daily struggle of wondering "why" your difficult child's are the way they are? Also, maybe even more importantly-how do you fight the fear of them growing up? How do you stop worrying about them needing help every step of the way and possibly not getting it? Of getting angry at someone one day and that someone taking revenge and hurting them or your difficult child hurting someone else because they don't understand they can't always have their way? Or.... oh so many questions? I want this kid to move out in 8-10 yrs. i had enough headaches so far. But will he find a job to suit him? Will he be able to remember to pay rent on time? Will he have a girlfriend willing to put up with "his ways"? I know I can't predict the future but I need to here it will all work out. Thank you for listening.