We're entrenched in a situation here. My difficult child and my fiance are stuck in this power struggle and I'm not sure how to fix it. They were best friends at first, until fiance had to put his foot down and say "no" to something. It's been a battle field ever since. I don't know how to make peace here. Fiance needs help, he's expressed he needs written tips on how to handle the ODD. difficult child is horrible to him, just horrible all the time. Fiance has his shields up on full all the time from all the constant attacks. Where can we start? Does any one have any tips?