On_Call
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difficult child looks at anything that he does not consider "normal" as a negative. He hated the collaborative day program because it wasn't normal. He hates the extended school year program because (you guessed it) it's not normal.
He says that everyone else is sleeping in and going to friends houses, etc., and that he is going to school and learning. (heaven forbid).
He and I had a talk last night about how negative thoughts have a way of growing until they take over a situation. The fact of the matter is that the collaborative day program went on more fun outings than a typical classroom. And, the fact of the matter regarding the ESY program is that husband and I spend our summer scrambling to find a comparable program for easy child because she is jealous of all of the fun things that difficult child gets to do in ESY. He has two beach days each week (they go to the high school pool in inclement weather) and do arts, crafts, organized gym and an occasional worksheet here and there. And, they go on a 3-day camping trip and on a field trip to a water park for a day.
I listed all of these things - and dared him not to smile when he thought about it. I won that conversation, anyway - and he went off on the bus a few minutes ago with a slightly conservative but positive outlook.
Please cross your fingers that it lasts!!
This did make me wonder if it is just our difficult child or if many of our little angels initially take a negative outlook on things, just because they are out of the norm? Does anyone have any 'tricks' on getting their difficult child to take a situation for what it is and enjoy the good parts, leaving the rest??
He says that everyone else is sleeping in and going to friends houses, etc., and that he is going to school and learning. (heaven forbid).
He and I had a talk last night about how negative thoughts have a way of growing until they take over a situation. The fact of the matter is that the collaborative day program went on more fun outings than a typical classroom. And, the fact of the matter regarding the ESY program is that husband and I spend our summer scrambling to find a comparable program for easy child because she is jealous of all of the fun things that difficult child gets to do in ESY. He has two beach days each week (they go to the high school pool in inclement weather) and do arts, crafts, organized gym and an occasional worksheet here and there. And, they go on a 3-day camping trip and on a field trip to a water park for a day.
I listed all of these things - and dared him not to smile when he thought about it. I won that conversation, anyway - and he went off on the bus a few minutes ago with a slightly conservative but positive outlook.
Please cross your fingers that it lasts!!
This did make me wonder if it is just our difficult child or if many of our little angels initially take a negative outlook on things, just because they are out of the norm? Does anyone have any 'tricks' on getting their difficult child to take a situation for what it is and enjoy the good parts, leaving the rest??