I have been going back and forth with my concerns with Sweet Pea. There are SO many similarities with V. The main difference: V was highly verbal at her age and she is obviously not. She can sometimes be so sweet, but she also has such tantrums. I have been wondering a lot about whether she could be on the spectrum. She has been receiving therapy since she was 15 month old and has great play skill. She has good one on one attention and will play pretend sponteanously (the boys never did that). But she will often line up her toys and be very particular with the way should be done. She is slowly going through a "blue" phase, etc... A lot of it seems like deja vue. She is very stuck on me and will stare at people without saying a sound. On the other hand, she is very animated with people she knows. I was wondering if a child with good pretend play could be on the spectrum. She is not aloof and does not space out. I have one regular child (Partner) and one special child (v). She is definitely a lot like V but of course is her own person. husband won't really discuss it. All he says is "she'll be fine". I know that, it's not my point.