To anyone who has not read this book, please please do so. I kept seeing this book over and over in threads here so I picked it up. 1/2 way through I felt like crying - when I finished the book, I did cry. It was the first time someone has written for me how to understand my difficult child children's behavior. Anyway, as a newbie here I want to send a big THANK YOU to everyone who mentioned this book!!! Also - Blue had a bump up in his Abilify this week and we are having much better days with no meltdowns/tantrums. I hope it lasts, fingers crossed.