It's been an ugly few weeks with kt emotionally. She really has been tesing us & our commitment to her. (hate Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)) As I was speaking with a nurse from the home health organization this past evening I couldn't ever hear her as kt's meltdown was huge & very loud. Off the phone, I turned to kt & told her to knock it off; she's already had her one tantrum allowed daily - that tank is empty. Typical Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kid reply - "why don't you just get rid of us. Find someone else to adopt her & wm." I told kt that I'd heard that so many times that it's getting boring. I then asked kt if she realized why she's here with us versus home with bio mom. I then went on to explain in a very unemotional & toneless voice the cycle of abuse. kt kept telling me that I cannot tell her things like that & that this was mean. Again I kept it emotionless & repeated that I could tell her this & this is the truth. husband & I have (& will continue if she & wm will allow it) worked our butts off to stop this cycle with her generation. Was this the right thing to do? Don't know; don't care? Is the the reality of my daughter's life - darned right. Is kt going to continue to choose reactive & angry behaviors or is she going to be able to stop, think & make safe & sane choices. So anonther ktbug drama. You can see it daily - generally around 3 in the afternoon.