Just for clarification to her when talking to L today, I apologized for her having got caught in the middle of my parents and M. She immediately jumped to their defense. I told her I was not apologizing for their involving her, I was apologizing in advance because I had the full story and I was going to explain it to her and that was me involving her. I told her that we had tried to help M to get on his feet financially over the last year or so, and that it was clear to me that the reason he was lying about having been in contact with us in the last few weeks is because last autumn we had told him we were done supporting him financially, although we would feed him and make sure he was able to get to job interviews. Clearly not an offer that he wanted to take us up on. She seemed to understand, then said "Well it seems pretty clear that he is manipulating the situation knowing the past history between you." I let a beat skip and said "And it seems that they have done their fair share of manipulation in this situation as well, knowing their past history with me." If I could slap some sense into them all you know I would. In the meantime, M should be prepared to get used to the view from under the bus.