Boundaries are probably the single most important thing I had to learn about. It culminated in my journey with my daughter..... when I look back on it, I think it was very hard for me because it was interwoven in with my belief that saying no was not what a loving, kind, perfect person/mother would do. It was a false image I tried to live up to. The irony is that once I began to say NO, to really set boundaries that respected ME, the opportunities to say YES to things that were for ME, began to show up. So ,you're right, saying NO actually allowed the opportunity to say YES to "many more wonderful things."