I'm going to post what I saw without any background info. I haven't gotten the official "report". I got to school for specials. Wee difficult child was shut in his safe room. Both paras were standing outside, tallying on a paper how many times he cursed/spit/kicked etc. I went to the SpEd Room to deliver some papers. Shortly after, so-so para brought wee difficult child in to finish his work. He walked in sobbing quietly. When he saw me, he asked to come apologize to me. So-so para was only one with him. She cut him off and said "no, you're not going to see mom" before he was able to get his whole request out. Good para came in and sat across the room. difficult child went to his desk. He sat down and started hs work and approximately 30 seconds later, started crying. Para told him he needed to stop screaming and do his work. difficult child said he needed to apologize to mommy. Para said if he needed to apologize to anyone, it was her. difficult child said "no, when I am bad, mommy gets calls and too many things in her head at work and I need to tell her I'm sorry." Para cut him off at "calls" and told him he needed to stop screaming and work or he would go back to the safe room. difficult child tried to stop crying. His back was too me, but I could see him attempting deep breaths, the para was onto his work, not assisting with the breathing. He would calm a few seconds, then cry again. Each time he cried, para told him to stop screaming or he'd have to leave. Finally she took him by the arm and lead him by the arm to the safe room and closed him in. Once in there, he started truly screaming, hitting the wall, and cursing. How would you guys have handled this if you were the para? Or for that matter, the parent watching?