We seem to be spiraling downhill and more out of control everyday Our entire household. Me and husband are barely hanging on. difficult child has divided us for sure. difficult child is abusing easy child by trying to control him all the time and then insulting him if he doesn't do what difficult child wants. It is utter chaos around here and difficult child is the eye of the storm. I would like to find some kind of in-home family therapy but don't even know how to go about that. difficult child has seen a psychologist and counselor before but they never did any good and never approached it as a family thing and helped us come up with a plan. We need Super Nanny. What do you do when your spouse and you can't get on the same page because your spouse acts like a bigger difficult child than your actual difficult child? I think maybe I need to get a therapist. How do you find someone that you can connect with? It's emotionally exhausting telling your story... Do you just keep making appointments until you find someone you like? My friends can't relate and my mother doesn't know what to tell me. I am burning out big time.