toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Had a unpleasant interaction with my son today....... He is In a sober living house and is going to an IOP and we are paying for it. The deal is he needs to go to the IOP for our financial support. He is supposed to go 3 times a week. Monday he did not go so I cut off funds.... I did ask him why and he had a reason which made sense but I still didn't give him funds. today he called me and it got somewhat nasty and I finally hung up on him. I then sent him a message clearly laying out that yes there are strings attached and to get financial support from us you need to be sober, doing things for your recovery and having some structured time .... When you get a job and are going to school we can talk about IOP. All extremely reasonable and generous in my book. He I s24 for goodness sakes!! I told him when he is fully supporting himself he won't have to answer to us. Well he just sent me a message saying I was gunning for a relationship my brother had with my dad (they were completely estranged for many years). I did not respond. I know this will blow over when he needs something.... But darn it I think he is making progress and then this happens. My fear is that he will use this as an excuse to go drinking..... But I know I can't take responsibility for that. That would be his choice. We shall see if he goes to the IOP tomorrow. I am so tired of this....