I guess I am detaching with my 6 year old, too. A couple weeks ago, I posted here because I was having a major malfunction with Tink and her refusal to clean up her room. She eventually did, after I banned her to her room until she did pick it up. Well it took about 2 hours and it was a mess again. So many of you good people gave me so many great ideas, I just had to try to formulate a plan that would work for us. As a side note, but having a little to do with this, we find out today that Tink has a ringworm on her arm. Okay, so I decide that if she wants her room to be a sty FOR NOW, fine, but KEEP the CLOTHES where they belong. Therin lies the problem. Little miss sassy pants tries on all her school clothes and then just throws them on the floor. And our place is pretty small, there really is nowhere to hide it. So, she stays in her room (often having a stroke) until she puts her clothes away. Now today, we had to sort all the clothes that she has worn since her rash started, and put them in a pile. That includes her sheets. While we were at it, we went through her "dress up clothes" and pulled out the torn, the ugly, and the disgusting. We tossed those that she had worn (that were salvagable) in the wash. My dad picked Tink up to take her to the zoo. I kept going (thank God for a less humid day) and have successfully cleaned out the "den" (the spare room, which was my bedroom before I moved my bed to the frontroom) of all Tink's papers and junk that was everywhere. She has her desk, 3 coloring books, one small art box with 32 crayons and 10 markers, and a pen. There are scissors, glue, tape, stamps, and stencils in hoc for her to earn back. EVERYTHING else is in the trash. And it was a TON. No wonder this kid feels entitiled. I still have her room to do! I have been warning her that it is coming, that she will have less stuff. She actually told me she wanted it that way. Does that say something? When she goes to her friends house, you should see her...she takes her backpack and stuffs it with papers, crayons, all kinds of stuff...nobody has the stuff that this kid has. I need a rest and my inhaler, lol. If you read all this, I am sorry.