I heard from difficult children teacher tonight. I feel better. I replied and let her know my novels were my way of fast tracking her knowing me until I can start volunteering when youngest easy child is in preschool. I let her know two steadfast rules regarding difficult child. One about his fake vs. real crying and the other about him telling the truth vs. lying. He is a pretty easy read when it comes to both of these if you know him. Anyways, I thought those of you who had been keeping up may want to know I'm relieved by her email. Here is what she wrote: "Hi! I hope everything settled down for you all and you were able to enjoy the weekend. You don't need to explain or worry. I am a mom too, and I know that all kids have their own ways of trying to get what they want, and sometimes being firm with your child is the only way they will understand that getting what they want all the time is not always in their best interest. I can assure you that difficult children crying on Friday did not make me feel sorry for him. I let him know that no one is going to feel sorry for him when the decisions that he makes are not good decisions and that when he makes a bad decision there is always natural consequences he will have to face. In this case, he could have ended up feeling or being sick because he took the cookie that did not belong to it and ate it. In any event, when he did not get the attention he was looking for, he stopped the crying. I think it might have started up again in the office. I'm sure I will get to know him a lot better in the next couple of weeks and I will know when he is really hurt or just looking for some extra attention. In terms of his snack, I only saw difficult child eat his pickles at snack time. Now that I know how sneaky he can be with the food, as in the case of the cookie, I'm sure he could have easily eaten the other foods as well when my attention was focused on another student or on the lesson at hand. I may move difficult child close to my teacher table so that I can monitor this better when we start our multitasking in language arts, and I have reading groups going. Is the drink you are sending water? He has been getting this out and keeping it on his desk first thing each morning, and has been refilling it when he needs too at the water fountain. If there is anything else you have questions or concerns about, or if there is anything else I can do to help, just let me know. Thanks." Thanks everyone for talking me through it. You guys are so great!