I had a great visit with difficult child today and it went better than expected. I had forgotten to mention in my previous thread about internet usage that we had also discussed the opportunity for him to have a job this summer, along with possibly taking driver's ed, if I am working from home because I could work around taking him to and from a job of his own. Then, he could pay off the rest of his restitution that's owed and must be paid (legally required) prior to getting a drivers license. (He won't be able to pay all the rest- it's 1700 more- but this could help a lot and make him more responsible for it.) Anyway, when he was wanting the internet so much last week he said "what if I work this summer and buy my own computer and pay for wireless service?" Today, after a few mins of hellos and how are you's, I said, "ok, about use of electronics"- he interruopted and said "never mind". I said "no, I think we should discuss it because you need to know how I feel about it. I think the transition will be plenty enough for the firstt 2-3 months and I am worried about where the typical compulsive usage and game playing- that can happen to all of us- might lead while you are transitioning and having bad days and frustrated sometimes." He smiled the sweetest smile, looked me straight in the eye, and said "really mom, I thought about it and it's ok." Then he started talking a little about driver's ed and exactly how much restitution was left to pay. Of course, if anything at all happens to this computer or the software, I can't work from home. I figure he decided he'd rather work toward a license and car than a comptuer and internet service- good choice in my book. And, since he's flipped on a few subjects that he intially worried me about, I think I need to keep in mind that if I give him a few days or so to think about things, maybe he'll think them thru better and come to a good decision on his own. (Ladies, please remind me of this a month or two from now. LOL!) Then, he said he's asking around to find out where there are stores where he could get good deals on clothes he likes that aren't in a mall because he knows I HATE going to the mall. (True- but I was going to take him for one shopping trip.) Well, he doesn't know it but I plan to have one gift box of clothes for him already. It won't have everything he needs in it, and that was the plan- he can spend some of his own money to get some things and pick out whatever he wants as long as it's acceptable to wear to school. But it will have a few shirts, underwear, sweats. I'll put those jeans in there too so he can see what he wants to do- keep them or return them and use the money for a better bargain somewhere else, whatever. I think he'll be happy this way and it will save us a little time while still giving him some responsibility for it and choices in his own clothes. As far as shoes, we thought he'd be able to come home with a pair of street shoes, but he can't. He has a pair of black Difficult Child's that are basicly brand new- they aren't the style that has a bold design or anything- and we are almost certain they will fit him because he bought them way too big last year. Is there any reason it would be an embaressment for a 15yo boy to wear this brand/style of shoe to high school?