Shari, you shouldn't have to do this.
BUT - I consider any time and effort I put in to difficult child 3, to be an investment in his future. If it means putting my life on hold for a while, then so be it.
Not all of us can afford this luxury.
I hope you get osme help for him, soon.
difficult child 3 had some rough times at about this age (and for a few years beyond). He is now, at 15, really beginning to verbalise his anger over how he was treated, not just by other kids but by "teachers who would not listen or give me a fair go". Given half a chance, I suspect difficult child 3 would want to sue them all. And while I'd be punching the air at this one too, I wouldn't want it to happen, because he needs to not live in the pain of the past, but to grow in spite of it and become a success. The best revenge.
Marg