I'm very, very new to the site... and very, very desperate! Forgive me in advance if I am doing something wrong by posting this. I have a 16 yr. old daughter, only diagnosed with ODD (she received this diagnosis a month or so ago when she was admitted into a adolescent psychiatric hospital/ward) but she seems to fit a CD diagnosis better? She has my entire family held hostage! I'm deathly afraid of her, and I mean this literally. I need advice and I'm hoping that someone around here can simply tell me the ins & outs of what we are all about to go through. Long story short... we started having "problems" when my daughter was around 13 (puberty) and the problems just grew to where they are now. She is a beautiful and highly intelligent girl; but she uses her beauty and intelligence to harm herself and every one around her. She is VERY promiscuous, manipulative, abusive (verbally towards me and my husband, physically towards her younger sisters ages 7 and 2) and I can't get her to go to school! She is a past drug abuser... she's clean now but traffics it. And our latest issue is that she has decided I am abusive towards her. The last time I asked her to do the dishes, she called me every name in the book and then abandoned her chore and went upstairs and called the Department of Health and Welfare to say she was scared of being abused by me. My daughter is in a teen "shelter" right now but can't stay there much longer. And there is a "meeting" set up for Monday, to decide where my daughter can live (she says she will kill herself or run away if she is forced to come home to live) Attending the meeting will be: me, my daughter, our family counselor, a social worker from the Department of Health and Welfare, a social worker from the teen shelter and a facilitator from the Department of Health and Welfare. We were not able to schedule this meeting at a time that my daughters probation officer could be there. I'm not an unfit parent, so they can't take my daughter from me... and it's illegal to voluntarily place her into foster care where she could actually get services that we aren't privy to. We have awesome medical insurance, but it doesn't cover long term treatment programs or wilderness-type programs... because this is a behavior issue, not a "health" issue. I'm scared to death... literally. Are they going to make me bring her home, where she might kill herself or one of us? Are they going to "prove" me unfit in order to have her placed somewhere that she is safe? How do I do this? I have four other children and a husband... I feel like I'm being expected to do the impossible; this is WAY over my head!