therese005us
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WEll, I had a bit of a discussion with the principal/teacher today at Cherub's school.
It is more and more obvious that she wishes I'd take her out. She has withdrawn the Aides from helping her with her toileting now. She is just directed to go to the toilet and clean herself up. Sometimes successfully, sometimes not. Cherub still tantrums when sent to the toilet, sometimes big time. Yesterday she threw a bag (albeit plastic bag) at the aide when the aide directed her to pick up her soiled undies from the toilet floor.
When in the classroom, she is very unco-operative and tantrums a lot.
Yesteday the principal/teacher had to intervene (AGAIN - roll of the eyes, exasperation from principal while telling me) because cherub either couldn't get or refused to participate in an activity where she had to do patterning - take 2 beads of differing colors and make a pattern e.g. 1 blue, 1 red. Cherub shut down and went into ragdoll mode and refused to budge. When the P/T came over to intervene and reiterate activity, cherub said green was blue, which confused the teacher as she thought cherub knew colors. then she went over the activity and explained it, and asked cherub to make a pattern, take two different beads and make a pattern were her words and cherub took 2 of the same color. She thinks cherub doesn't understand the word or direciton, difference. Which is preschool work!
she wanted me to make sure that I had told her bio mother that I had been advised to put her in a different school with a Special Education unit and had refused.
Today the AVT came, she is an advisory visiting teacher who observes cherub over a few visits. Part o fht eassessment process.
The P/T is fed up of having to interrupt her class to attend to cherub, who cannot/will not do any activity unless one/to one, every step of the way. She thinks a lot of her behaviour is related to abandonment of the aides to help her. She is very dependent for every activity.... she thinks the bio mother probably is at fault here for giving in to her every whim (I doubt that actually!) and doign things for her where she could be doing them herself. I doubt that too, since she seems incapable of some of the simplest tasks.
I know she wants me to give in and take her to the other school, but it's more than 20 mins drive and I couldn't get there so easily. Cherub isn't going to go on the bus. I think a smaller school is better.
Actually, I think I'll homeschool her with better success. I'm just waiting on getting all that paperwork they promised me first. If I take her out too soon, then I wouldn't be entitled to ask for it.
On the way to taking her to bio mum today, she was able to accurately give me directions (I didn't believe her at first) as to which road to turn down! There are some lights on in there, I just have to expose them!
Should I give in and take her to a larger school? She came from a larger school, and the aides didn't want her to be in proper undies there either. Nappies and no toileting does not appeal to me.... And her education hasn't come very far in three years of schooling.....
It is more and more obvious that she wishes I'd take her out. She has withdrawn the Aides from helping her with her toileting now. She is just directed to go to the toilet and clean herself up. Sometimes successfully, sometimes not. Cherub still tantrums when sent to the toilet, sometimes big time. Yesterday she threw a bag (albeit plastic bag) at the aide when the aide directed her to pick up her soiled undies from the toilet floor.
When in the classroom, she is very unco-operative and tantrums a lot.
Yesteday the principal/teacher had to intervene (AGAIN - roll of the eyes, exasperation from principal while telling me) because cherub either couldn't get or refused to participate in an activity where she had to do patterning - take 2 beads of differing colors and make a pattern e.g. 1 blue, 1 red. Cherub shut down and went into ragdoll mode and refused to budge. When the P/T came over to intervene and reiterate activity, cherub said green was blue, which confused the teacher as she thought cherub knew colors. then she went over the activity and explained it, and asked cherub to make a pattern, take two different beads and make a pattern were her words and cherub took 2 of the same color. She thinks cherub doesn't understand the word or direciton, difference. Which is preschool work!
she wanted me to make sure that I had told her bio mother that I had been advised to put her in a different school with a Special Education unit and had refused.
Today the AVT came, she is an advisory visiting teacher who observes cherub over a few visits. Part o fht eassessment process.
The P/T is fed up of having to interrupt her class to attend to cherub, who cannot/will not do any activity unless one/to one, every step of the way. She thinks a lot of her behaviour is related to abandonment of the aides to help her. She is very dependent for every activity.... she thinks the bio mother probably is at fault here for giving in to her every whim (I doubt that actually!) and doign things for her where she could be doing them herself. I doubt that too, since she seems incapable of some of the simplest tasks.
I know she wants me to give in and take her to the other school, but it's more than 20 mins drive and I couldn't get there so easily. Cherub isn't going to go on the bus. I think a smaller school is better.
Actually, I think I'll homeschool her with better success. I'm just waiting on getting all that paperwork they promised me first. If I take her out too soon, then I wouldn't be entitled to ask for it.
On the way to taking her to bio mum today, she was able to accurately give me directions (I didn't believe her at first) as to which road to turn down! There are some lights on in there, I just have to expose them!
Should I give in and take her to a larger school? She came from a larger school, and the aides didn't want her to be in proper undies there either. Nappies and no toileting does not appeal to me.... And her education hasn't come very far in three years of schooling.....