I'm not sure if I'm in the right place or not, but when I read the first line on the home page about "not having a great parenting day" I could certainly relate. I have 2 daughters - ages 12 and 9. My challenges are with my 9 year old. She baffles me some days, today being one of them. She has always had tantrum issues, not to the point that that I was overly concerned but she is 9 years old now, shouldn't they be over? She is always putting herself down, comparing herself to her sister (that in her mind never does anything wrong and the one we love the most). She yells, screams, kicks, pulls her own hair - anything to show that she isn't happy about whatever is going on. This morning she woke up, saying she had a stomach ache( this is pretty typical on Mondays) I basically just acknowleged it and went on to make breakfast, lunches and get everyone out the door. She had a total melt down. Something similar happened yesterday morning. I take things away from her, I make her sit out of events until she has had her "time out" due to the actions. It is harder and harder to know how I should react. If I laugh she gets angrier, if I cry she does the same, if I ignor it same thing. The thing is I never know what is going to trigger it. We might go weeks with nothing and then bam - two days in a row. I have not ever had her tested for anything, I don't want medications - I just need some advice because I really feel that I'm losing it!