Hi all, Well my hubby and I got back a couple of days ago from a really nice vacation in Norway. I didn't have internet access while I was gone which was really really good for me. We talked to my son before we left and he sounded pretty good. I did get access a couple of times while we were gone and sent him a couple of messages. We did give him access to a bit of money for emergency use while we were gone. Of course he has spent that (I could tell online) and given his lack of communication with us I think he is either drinking, smoking pot or whatever. I have no idea what he is doing and I am feeling like throwing in the towel to be honest. We have tried to help him and be there for him in so many ways and I am really feeling like he just takes advantage of us... and honestly you would think he would call or at least respond to me now that we are back and he hasn't. At this point I don't think he will contact us until he needs money and I think at that point we just need to say no and let him figure it out. I know several of you have been telling me this for awhile....and maybe now I just have to let it happen. We let him happen before and he was homeless for 3 months in the middle of winter. I think in some ways that was so traumatic for me. I don't want to go through that again. I just don't have faith he will figure it out I guess..... And if he gets desperate enough he will agree to go to treatment but we have done that so many times too....it just feels hopeless to me. And of course maybe it is not as hopeless as it feels but it is hard to know since I really have no information.