Mostly a vent. we flew our difficult child into town and due to this (cost) and some improvement in her recent behaviors etc we did not put her in a hotel for this visit. Last visit was much better with her in the hotel. But this one, although rough, was better than one’s in the past. So...a teeny improvement overall. We’ve had visits that were hideous. This was NOT hideous. Everything was more or less ok. Some quirkiness and moodinesss. Not too horrible. But... today was a bit rough. I ignored it , so things wouldn’t escalate. But, it’s still hard. She is about thirty and very heavy. Each time we see her she is heavier. Some VERY interesting, but put in a succinct way, events: 1. Cried in front of little grandkids because she didn’t get a present she wanted. 2. Sent me a text saying that I almost killed her as a child because I didn’t notice certain health issues. (WTH???) Omg. Not true. 3. Screamed at me because (get this) she asked me to remind her about something and I set a reminder on the Alexa app and added a few items to the reminder more than what she originally asked. 4. She ate practically everything in our refrigerator including husband’s lunch. 5. Complained to me that the clothes I had set aside for her at our home for her visits no longer fit her and this is my responsibility not hers. I know better to mention that when she gains significant weight it causes problems because she will scream at me. 5. Screamed at my husband because she has aches and pains and sweats a lot. Complained bitterly to him and to anyone that would listen. Just yelling out loud. He suggested she lose weight. She screamed at him saying she “doesn’t want to hear that” and suggested her sweating issue was a “woman’s issue “ implying menopause. She leaves tomorrow. She takes zero resp. for her bad attitude and s n a r k I n e s s. Zero responsibility for her overweight. Is quick to scream...especially at me. She is grouchy x 100000. Is this bipolar only? It seems like a mixture of anxiety, moodiness, entitlement and bipolar mixed together. Any thoughts and any ideas on what to say to her when she is screaming or complaining excessively? Thank you.