first time on forum. reading thru with interest. Last night was probably the worst night with my difficult child-it got really ugly. an the whole time I kept thinking, its not supposed to be like this, a nine year old should just go to bed when its time to go to bed, not because of some reward but because its time for bed. then of course it makes you think, what is wrong with me if I cant handle this. the irony is that today I got a phone call from a friend who also happens to be a child psychiatrist who was just thinking of me and checking in-he was the one who suggested professional help months ago-best advice I ever took, but I am really starting to get tired of all the work it takes just to avoid screaming matches. I am convinced my 6 yr will be permanently scarred from the fights he has had to witness.. any advice out there on how to ease the blow for the younger sibs in the home?