DS3
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This is basically a rant/vent and I didn't know which forum to put it in.
My mother called me tonight and told me that they had an article on the news tonight regarding ADHD and sleep and that I should check it out. I was expecting some research study showing something about the positive effects of ADHD when children get more sleep.
It's about faux ADHD. Meaning that kids who don't have the disorder show signs of ADHD but don't improve with medication.
So I feel a bit offended by my mother suggesting (or one assumes she is suggesting) that my son doesn't really have this disorder. She raised both me and my brother, and while I seemed quiet and calm, where as my brother was loud and disruptive -we both have ADHD. I cannot believe that she is suggesting to me that we should 'just ignore it and it will go away' (this was her way of dealing with us. I know this because I asked her how she dealt with my brother at my son's age with his ADHD, and her response was she had me watch him. I'm the younger sibling...).
Part of me is at a conflict and wants to ask her about it, but she has already gone to bed. The one person I trusted to help me through this the most is the one who doesn't seem to believe that my son(s) truly do have an issue.
I think I'm still in shock about it a little. Granted, we haven't visited in a couple of years due to financial problems and the cost to fly home, but still... ~sigh~
I'm disappointed, frustrated, aggravated, annoyed, offended, and a whole lot of other %&*^ at the moment.
I mean really. I didn't have him seen by X amount of doctors to fake a diagnosis. I haven't worked this hard to get both of my sons the help they need with the therapists and the EFMP and everything else for nothing. The medication does work. It's just so.... FRUSTRATING! I mean, I wouldn't be doing the research and buying the books and educating myself through different classes and seminars if I didn't have to. It's not like I asked for this. This was the hand I was dealt, and I think I am dealing with it perfectly. Getting them the resources and the help that they need whether it cuts into my schedule or not. Knowing what I'm facing so I'm not going into something un-prepared. Is this the life I imagined? Hell no. But I love my children and want to see them succeed. I want them to know that mommy did everything she could within her power to support them and their 'issues' so that way they know how much I care, and how much I want them to succeed. Is that so wrong? I don't want them ending up like my brother (who is sitting in jail now). I just want what's best for them. Why can't they understand? ~sigh~
Garh... I'm going to go bathe the kiddos and put them down and then try to relax myself with a nice hot shower. Thanks for listening.
My mother called me tonight and told me that they had an article on the news tonight regarding ADHD and sleep and that I should check it out. I was expecting some research study showing something about the positive effects of ADHD when children get more sleep.
It's about faux ADHD. Meaning that kids who don't have the disorder show signs of ADHD but don't improve with medication.
So I feel a bit offended by my mother suggesting (or one assumes she is suggesting) that my son doesn't really have this disorder. She raised both me and my brother, and while I seemed quiet and calm, where as my brother was loud and disruptive -we both have ADHD. I cannot believe that she is suggesting to me that we should 'just ignore it and it will go away' (this was her way of dealing with us. I know this because I asked her how she dealt with my brother at my son's age with his ADHD, and her response was she had me watch him. I'm the younger sibling...).
Part of me is at a conflict and wants to ask her about it, but she has already gone to bed. The one person I trusted to help me through this the most is the one who doesn't seem to believe that my son(s) truly do have an issue.
I think I'm still in shock about it a little. Granted, we haven't visited in a couple of years due to financial problems and the cost to fly home, but still... ~sigh~
I'm disappointed, frustrated, aggravated, annoyed, offended, and a whole lot of other %&*^ at the moment.
I mean really. I didn't have him seen by X amount of doctors to fake a diagnosis. I haven't worked this hard to get both of my sons the help they need with the therapists and the EFMP and everything else for nothing. The medication does work. It's just so.... FRUSTRATING! I mean, I wouldn't be doing the research and buying the books and educating myself through different classes and seminars if I didn't have to. It's not like I asked for this. This was the hand I was dealt, and I think I am dealing with it perfectly. Getting them the resources and the help that they need whether it cuts into my schedule or not. Knowing what I'm facing so I'm not going into something un-prepared. Is this the life I imagined? Hell no. But I love my children and want to see them succeed. I want them to know that mommy did everything she could within her power to support them and their 'issues' so that way they know how much I care, and how much I want them to succeed. Is that so wrong? I don't want them ending up like my brother (who is sitting in jail now). I just want what's best for them. Why can't they understand? ~sigh~
Garh... I'm going to go bathe the kiddos and put them down and then try to relax myself with a nice hot shower. Thanks for listening.