So Tired
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Hello - I just wanted to stop in an make a short post. I haven't been here in so long that it took me a minute to remember my screen name! 5 years ago this forum helped me get thru the days as my son spiraled out of control. I just wanted to post to others that are in the midst of this that change IS possible. My son is now 23 and it finally feels like we may actually have turned a corner. He is working pretty much full time, gets up ON HIS OWN, and makes it to work on time. He even got two substanial raises this year because he is doing such a good job at work. He is still living at home and hasn't managed to get any college completed, but I do feel a real change in that he seems to understand that his choices have long term consequences. 5 years ago I would have said that I was done, and resigned to the fact that he and I would never have any kind of relationship. And we still have our moments and battles, but I no longer feel afraid of what each day will bring, and we do have some actual pleasant times. Sometimes I even see that inside him somewhere he really does value our home and some of the things that he used to think were so stupid, like morals, and values, and cleanliness, and family, and caring about others. I'm not sure if it will help anyone, but I just wanted to say that change is possible, even after you run out of hope. And to thank the people on this forum for being here at a time when I desperately needed them...