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I am afraid I won't get MORE If I drop the case.......
AND IF YOU DO?????? AND four months from now you are sitting here going - GOSH what a dunce I was because I dropped the case and NOW I have NOTHING and NO LEGAL RECOURSE - YOU are GOING TO HAVE WAY BIGGER FEARS AND ABSOLUTELY NO MONEY. NONE, NADA, ZIP ZILCH.
The reason he's telling you and LURING you with the $232 now is to GET YOU TO DROP IT........it's a carrot at the end of a stick dear.
I am one of a very, very few women I know that said at my divorce - "PLEASE give me three things......MY good name back - because his is ****, A lifetime ORDER of protection for myself and my son, and NO childsupprt order." The judge thought it was weird, odd and chastised me for it. I said "REALLY? Well in 13 years of marriage I've worked three jobs, he's worked when he WANTED to. I've taken care of my son, HE did drugs, women, and beat me - I am even paying for the entire divorce and he's no where to be found......why do I want to try to get a pittance, which is ONLY going to take away time from one of MY jobs when he's not going to pay it anyway HE has a son - HE knows that is his responsibilty and he has not paid for him in five years." The judge banged his gavel...then I said "I"ll tell you what......I'll pay THAT BAST##$d $25 a week to STAY away from us." and that really peaved the judge off." soooooooo ......I got everything I asked for. ANd I worked sometimes three jobs. MY X - in sixteen years - sent ONE crumpled up one dollar bill in a letter and told his son it was the best he could do - he was broke and working with a traveling circus - as a monkey no doubt. Then he sent him a rusty bike in a brand new bicycle box - and one of his ballcaps with a note that said "This smells like me - wear it often." -------
You do what you want - but I wouldn't trust your x or anyone else - because if he wanted to do the right thing in the first place? He wouldn't have needed the court to do it in the FIRST FREAKIN place. Now think about that. And he'd be passing you that little EXTRA with or WITHOUT a court order. WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES THAT MAKE ANYWAY - DUH/ Tell him - the court says 100.00 and if he wants to give you $100.00 extra for HIS children? SO be it. If he doesn't want to give it to you? Then tell him to oipen each of them a savings account and send them each their balance receipts every month that way YOU can't touch it - and a trustee can be set up so HE can't either. But THEY can get it when they are 21.
IF he's SOooooooooooooo WORRIED about the money.
I gave that option to my X mother in law for my X - and golly - when my son turned 18 - there wasn't a Dime anywhere for him.
AND IF YOU DO?????? AND four months from now you are sitting here going - GOSH what a dunce I was because I dropped the case and NOW I have NOTHING and NO LEGAL RECOURSE - YOU are GOING TO HAVE WAY BIGGER FEARS AND ABSOLUTELY NO MONEY. NONE, NADA, ZIP ZILCH.
The reason he's telling you and LURING you with the $232 now is to GET YOU TO DROP IT........it's a carrot at the end of a stick dear.
I am one of a very, very few women I know that said at my divorce - "PLEASE give me three things......MY good name back - because his is ****, A lifetime ORDER of protection for myself and my son, and NO childsupprt order." The judge thought it was weird, odd and chastised me for it. I said "REALLY? Well in 13 years of marriage I've worked three jobs, he's worked when he WANTED to. I've taken care of my son, HE did drugs, women, and beat me - I am even paying for the entire divorce and he's no where to be found......why do I want to try to get a pittance, which is ONLY going to take away time from one of MY jobs when he's not going to pay it anyway HE has a son - HE knows that is his responsibilty and he has not paid for him in five years." The judge banged his gavel...then I said "I"ll tell you what......I'll pay THAT BAST##$d $25 a week to STAY away from us." and that really peaved the judge off." soooooooo ......I got everything I asked for. ANd I worked sometimes three jobs. MY X - in sixteen years - sent ONE crumpled up one dollar bill in a letter and told his son it was the best he could do - he was broke and working with a traveling circus - as a monkey no doubt. Then he sent him a rusty bike in a brand new bicycle box - and one of his ballcaps with a note that said "This smells like me - wear it often." -------
You do what you want - but I wouldn't trust your x or anyone else - because if he wanted to do the right thing in the first place? He wouldn't have needed the court to do it in the FIRST FREAKIN place. Now think about that. And he'd be passing you that little EXTRA with or WITHOUT a court order. WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES THAT MAKE ANYWAY - DUH/ Tell him - the court says 100.00 and if he wants to give you $100.00 extra for HIS children? SO be it. If he doesn't want to give it to you? Then tell him to oipen each of them a savings account and send them each their balance receipts every month that way YOU can't touch it - and a trustee can be set up so HE can't either. But THEY can get it when they are 21.
IF he's SOooooooooooooo WORRIED about the money.
I gave that option to my X mother in law for my X - and golly - when my son turned 18 - there wasn't a Dime anywhere for him.