newstart
Well-Known Member
It happened again.. I ran into another friend yesterday, I had not seen her for a long time. She went on and on about how horrible her daughter was acting. She drinks, smokes runs around all night with much older men, she is 21, she just had a baby with a 53 year old.
My friend looks old and totally wore out. I was told by my friend that I do not have a clue to what she is talking about because my daughter was always so good. Where did she get this information from? How does she know this? She tells me she is glad I never had to deal with this kind of mess. I hugged her and said I would pray for her. What she did not realize is that my daughter could win the contest of nasty behavior and make her daugher look pale in comparison. I do not want to compete with this type of ugly stuff but how can anyone tell me I don't know what an out of control daughter feels like. In the midst of my daughter's horrific behavior I went to the gym, I worked hard at trying to heal, I prayed all the time and I tried to have a smile on my face. It was not easy and still it is not easy. This is not the first time this has happened. Sometimes these women that tell me horrific things about their children, and when I tell them I understand they look at me like I am making something up, that no way could I know the depth and grief there is when raising a disordered child. I have had some of these women tell me all about it and then hide when they see me because they just spilled their guts to a woman that does not have a clue. I think these women are embarrassed because they think they shocked me. Even when I tell them I get it, I have been there, they still think I do not understand the depth of their grief and agony. I wish I did not 'get it' but unfortunately I get it all to well.
My friend looks old and totally wore out. I was told by my friend that I do not have a clue to what she is talking about because my daughter was always so good. Where did she get this information from? How does she know this? She tells me she is glad I never had to deal with this kind of mess. I hugged her and said I would pray for her. What she did not realize is that my daughter could win the contest of nasty behavior and make her daugher look pale in comparison. I do not want to compete with this type of ugly stuff but how can anyone tell me I don't know what an out of control daughter feels like. In the midst of my daughter's horrific behavior I went to the gym, I worked hard at trying to heal, I prayed all the time and I tried to have a smile on my face. It was not easy and still it is not easy. This is not the first time this has happened. Sometimes these women that tell me horrific things about their children, and when I tell them I understand they look at me like I am making something up, that no way could I know the depth and grief there is when raising a disordered child. I have had some of these women tell me all about it and then hide when they see me because they just spilled their guts to a woman that does not have a clue. I think these women are embarrassed because they think they shocked me. Even when I tell them I get it, I have been there, they still think I do not understand the depth of their grief and agony. I wish I did not 'get it' but unfortunately I get it all to well.