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OMG...this is STRESSFUL. I do not feel involved or informed. I understand the Bride and her mother do most of this. I ask my son questions and he tells me what he knows, but he doesn't know a lot of the details. He is on the road for work most of the time.
I am involved in the wedding shower. I should not be. Matron of honor, brides mother and myself.
Brides mother has many relatives in this area. I believe she invited about 40 to the shower.
I have no relatives near me. I haven't seen most of my family since my mothers funeral 3 years ago. And prior to that many years.
We met twice for shower details. OMG...I have been with very little money most of my life and I live within my means. I was VERY INSULTED by the Brides mother over and over.
She wants to spend all this money on the shower (which I am responsible for 1/3) Had to RENT a building for $150, which I was not aware of. I thought it was free (my son's apartment complex club house)
Since they got engaged in Vegas, they want the shower to be Vegas themed. OMG...she wants buckets with a bottle of champagne on EACH table. She wanted and "engraved" gift for each. (this was shot down by Matron of honor and me) But if it would just be me I would be ignored. Every suggestion I made was blown off. I told them to keep the expenses down, I would rather give it to the kids to pay for the wedding....she laughs.
My son and future wife are paying for the wedding. I helped them some. He said they want to keep it small.
Ok...My guest list was my brothers and sisters, their kids(his cousins). They decided on NO KIDS. Meaning his cousins cannot bring their kids. All of his cousins live through out the country. He hasn't seen them in many many years. In addition to my brothers and sisters I invited three friends. Mother of the bride laughed and told me to invite who ever I wanted. Son says keep it small.
ALL of my brothers and sisters said they are coming. Even the one from California. He is closest in age to me, a year older. The rest are much older 12 - 16 years older. My brother in California has a 6 year old son. But that 6 year old is my son's cousin. So having a "kid" there is raising questions. My neices and nephews have kids older and are not invited. But this IS his cousin. I was so happy that ALL of my brothers and sisters will come.
Mother of bride tells me about how to dress. I was insulted by her comments. I am aware of the ettiquite, she picks her dress first. But even my son came over and told me how formal I must be. I WAS planning on looking nice, formal. But I am NOT spending $400+ for a dress as Mother of the Bride is.
I am 6ft tall and it is VERY, difficult to find a long dress long enough.!!! Even at bridal stores.
To top off all of the rude and insulting comments from the mother of the bride...my son says not to take her comments serious, she doesn't mean it...Bride never answers her phone. I leave her messages and she doesn't call me back. I email her and text her and no return call. My son is in another state working and I asked him to tell her to call me.
He writes me an email that just made me cry. He says NO KIDS...then named each of my neices and nephews who have children, said he will turn them away at the door if they bring their kids. He then said "This isn't a family reunion this is my wedding". I cried. Yes..this IS his wedding. And ALL of my brothers and sisters are coming to see MY SON get married. They are coming for him. If they wanted to see me, maybe sometime in my LIFE they would of contacted me, or invited me somewhere. He then went on and on about other things relating to his wedding. I was floored. I just sat and cried. I told husband and difficult child what he said and how bad I felt.
I don't even know what the dresses look like. Just found out what color they are. Bride never talks to me.
Whenever my son is in town they spend all their time at her mothers and family. I saw them both about a month ago maybe. But they are always with her family. (who lives less than a mile from us) I am so hurt.
And so worried about the wedding. I try to help them. I gave them money to pay for the Hall. My son said her parents haven't given them anything even though they have MUCH more money than us. And I saw the guest list. Mother of the bride has invited everyone!!! And I am only allowed 3 friends ?????
The shower is this coming Sunday. I work Saturday night from 6:30 pm until 7am. I commute 1.5 hours on a good day. I have to sleep. Mother of the bride wants me there to decorate early. I told them I cannot come early. I will send my husband over with the food I will supply. They said no. I have a sister driving 2.5 hours, another driving 1.5 hours and a friend driving 2 hours and another 1 hour. I have nobody from town.
My sisters have been to my house once in 16 years. Long ago. Now how do I tell the mother of the bride I will come back later to clean up, but I plan on asking my sisters to come over to my house.
I am so nervous. We painted two rooms. Painted our kitchen cupboards. (can't afford to replace them. They were painted this ugly blue for 16 years) Finally we are done with the kitchen. I work out of town so I am not home three days a week. I stay at my sisters.
My stomach started hurting, chest pain, can't breathe for several weeks. Finally went to the doctor. They did ct-scan and scope. Ulcers !!! And Acid reflux do to Ulcers.
I want so much to help my son and future wife with the wedding. But everything I suggest is blown off. She doesn't talk to me. Her mother insults me. I never see them. I know my son is stressed because he is responsible to help, and he should...but he is out of town for 3 - 4 or more weeks at a time. And on top of that she is now pregnant. But he was out of line on what he said to me. I never mentioned kids coming. I respected their decision since day one. I am afraid to talk to him. This was over email and he made me cry. I want to see them. I want to help. But I am afraid.
Sorry this is so long
I am involved in the wedding shower. I should not be. Matron of honor, brides mother and myself.
Brides mother has many relatives in this area. I believe she invited about 40 to the shower.
I have no relatives near me. I haven't seen most of my family since my mothers funeral 3 years ago. And prior to that many years.
We met twice for shower details. OMG...I have been with very little money most of my life and I live within my means. I was VERY INSULTED by the Brides mother over and over.
She wants to spend all this money on the shower (which I am responsible for 1/3) Had to RENT a building for $150, which I was not aware of. I thought it was free (my son's apartment complex club house)
Since they got engaged in Vegas, they want the shower to be Vegas themed. OMG...she wants buckets with a bottle of champagne on EACH table. She wanted and "engraved" gift for each. (this was shot down by Matron of honor and me) But if it would just be me I would be ignored. Every suggestion I made was blown off. I told them to keep the expenses down, I would rather give it to the kids to pay for the wedding....she laughs.
My son and future wife are paying for the wedding. I helped them some. He said they want to keep it small.
Ok...My guest list was my brothers and sisters, their kids(his cousins). They decided on NO KIDS. Meaning his cousins cannot bring their kids. All of his cousins live through out the country. He hasn't seen them in many many years. In addition to my brothers and sisters I invited three friends. Mother of the bride laughed and told me to invite who ever I wanted. Son says keep it small.
ALL of my brothers and sisters said they are coming. Even the one from California. He is closest in age to me, a year older. The rest are much older 12 - 16 years older. My brother in California has a 6 year old son. But that 6 year old is my son's cousin. So having a "kid" there is raising questions. My neices and nephews have kids older and are not invited. But this IS his cousin. I was so happy that ALL of my brothers and sisters will come.
Mother of bride tells me about how to dress. I was insulted by her comments. I am aware of the ettiquite, she picks her dress first. But even my son came over and told me how formal I must be. I WAS planning on looking nice, formal. But I am NOT spending $400+ for a dress as Mother of the Bride is.
I am 6ft tall and it is VERY, difficult to find a long dress long enough.!!! Even at bridal stores.
To top off all of the rude and insulting comments from the mother of the bride...my son says not to take her comments serious, she doesn't mean it...Bride never answers her phone. I leave her messages and she doesn't call me back. I email her and text her and no return call. My son is in another state working and I asked him to tell her to call me.
He writes me an email that just made me cry. He says NO KIDS...then named each of my neices and nephews who have children, said he will turn them away at the door if they bring their kids. He then said "This isn't a family reunion this is my wedding". I cried. Yes..this IS his wedding. And ALL of my brothers and sisters are coming to see MY SON get married. They are coming for him. If they wanted to see me, maybe sometime in my LIFE they would of contacted me, or invited me somewhere. He then went on and on about other things relating to his wedding. I was floored. I just sat and cried. I told husband and difficult child what he said and how bad I felt.
I don't even know what the dresses look like. Just found out what color they are. Bride never talks to me.
Whenever my son is in town they spend all their time at her mothers and family. I saw them both about a month ago maybe. But they are always with her family. (who lives less than a mile from us) I am so hurt.
And so worried about the wedding. I try to help them. I gave them money to pay for the Hall. My son said her parents haven't given them anything even though they have MUCH more money than us. And I saw the guest list. Mother of the bride has invited everyone!!! And I am only allowed 3 friends ?????
The shower is this coming Sunday. I work Saturday night from 6:30 pm until 7am. I commute 1.5 hours on a good day. I have to sleep. Mother of the bride wants me there to decorate early. I told them I cannot come early. I will send my husband over with the food I will supply. They said no. I have a sister driving 2.5 hours, another driving 1.5 hours and a friend driving 2 hours and another 1 hour. I have nobody from town.
My sisters have been to my house once in 16 years. Long ago. Now how do I tell the mother of the bride I will come back later to clean up, but I plan on asking my sisters to come over to my house.
I am so nervous. We painted two rooms. Painted our kitchen cupboards. (can't afford to replace them. They were painted this ugly blue for 16 years) Finally we are done with the kitchen. I work out of town so I am not home three days a week. I stay at my sisters.
My stomach started hurting, chest pain, can't breathe for several weeks. Finally went to the doctor. They did ct-scan and scope. Ulcers !!! And Acid reflux do to Ulcers.
I want so much to help my son and future wife with the wedding. But everything I suggest is blown off. She doesn't talk to me. Her mother insults me. I never see them. I know my son is stressed because he is responsible to help, and he should...but he is out of town for 3 - 4 or more weeks at a time. And on top of that she is now pregnant. But he was out of line on what he said to me. I never mentioned kids coming. I respected their decision since day one. I am afraid to talk to him. This was over email and he made me cry. I want to see them. I want to help. But I am afraid.
Sorry this is so long