Yes. Right after we got custody we needed some distance from him. The agency would supervise visits. My son showed for every one. He does have some of that manipulative stuff going on though. But the over riding thing is love.If your GS was not under your care but another foster family do you think your son would still be going to see him? I just wonder if because it's you that have GS that is why your son puts forth the effort.
Yes, that's the plan. BUT since the child is special needs I think that there needs to be help put in place for him. He works full time. He can't get food stamps. No subsidized housing. No repsite. The payment for childcare ends as soon as DCFS signs off. More pressure and fuel added to the fire. Since there in no other parent, no other income this might repeat itself if there aren't social supports in place to help him. My D H and I are trying to get ready for retirement. I haven't been able to work as much because of the care needed and the time intensive therapies/meetings/school involvement/surgeries/medical appointments. There is a program in our state that would be a great help in these areas. We are meeting with them in February. It took them that long to get back to us since July.Is the assumption by CPS/Judge that your son will take custody after the year that you and your husband care for your grandson, if he fulfills certain requirements?
SWot we committed to a year. I don't know how I pulled that figure out of the hat. We were in the police station, we were at the emergency room, we were frazzled and scared and wanted him safe. At the end, we want to say that we did what we could to help. We can't do anything beyond that. We still have difficult child 1 bipolar, not medicated and in full manic mode and we have our own financial and health issues that after about 4 years of neglect need some attention. One day at a time we'll get there. Trying to do so with some dignity and grace and in a manner that conveys love for our family. Appropriate love, not enabling love. It's a fine line and I have to work at it every day. All of your support helps. All the hugs help. Your perspectives are priceless.Tish, I did not know you only committed to five months of care. I don't blame you or think that's wrong at all, but that does make things more heartbreaking for you.
This is good. I'm glad that he has a genuine love for his child.My son showed for every one. He does have some of that manipulative stuff going on though. But the over riding thing is love.
Oh Tish, you have been through so much. What a very special, loving and giving person you are. I hope on some level your son realizes how much you have done for him and his child and I hope he appreciates it.Yes, that's the plan. BUT since the child is special needs I think that there needs to be help put in place for him. He works full time. He can't get food stamps. No subsidized housing. No repsite. The payment for childcare ends as soon as DCFS signs off. More pressure and fuel added to the fire. Since there in no other parent, no other income this might repeat itself if there aren't social supports in place to help him. My D H and I are trying to get ready for retirement. I haven't been able to work as much because of the care needed and the time intensive therapies/meetings/school involvement/surgeries/medical appointments. There is a program in our state that would be a great help in these areas. We are meeting with them in February. It took them that long to get back to us since July.
I hope it works out. What about Regional Center, Tish? I feel certain Grandson would qualify, if he is not already. Do they provide assistance, respite? And school. Is there an after school program? Will grandson stay in the same school and district?There is a program in our state that would be a great help in these areas.