nvts
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You know, I don't feel guilty saying right now that I'm not liking my 9 yr. old dude lately.
He's driving me insane. Morning, noon and night it's the same thing. I want to take that "chip" that's perpetually on his shoulder and stick it where the sun don't shine.
Every morning it's the same g.d. thing. You try and get him up pleasantly and he's wound up like a spring. He yells at his brother and sister CONSTANTLY. "Shut up" "get out of my room" "stay on your side" and then the every other second "no". I've tried matter of fact, I've tried kindness, I've tried joking, I've tried understanding. He's just full of p!ss and vinegar. 24-7. He goes to bed the same way.
Therapy this week was a flipping joke. I finally informed him and his therapist that I'll show up 2 more times and if it seems that we're trying to work and HE'S not, I'm not coming. Until he recognizes that HE'S the one with the problem, it can't be fixed and I'm sick of wasting my time. The last 3 sessions were BS of trying to drag it out so that he could ride home with me rather than finish the day at school.
One must keep in mind that although family therapy is once a month, I volunteered to come an extra session every month so that we can help him.
They refuse to work with the Aspergers issues until he gets his conduct into the human level. He can't get it to the human level until I can figure out if the Concerta/Strattera (he's been on the concerta for 3 years, the strattera for 2 months) is increasing his aggression/aggitation or do we need to add a mood stablizer. I'm on the internet constantly trying to research and he spends an average of 2 days in the Crisis room at school.
When he's in crisis now, everything escalates - now with throwing chairs and running (he hasn't run out of rooms in 3 years).
husband was out of work for almost 2 years, went through a depression, we almost split up, found a position at the beginning of December and is too tired to spend time with this kid by the end of the day. This is now an additional excuse for why the behavior is getting worse.
There reasons this kid gives are as follows:
you don't even love me
Dad doesn't play Yugioh with me
everyone's an idiot
the school *****
I hate my brother
I hate my sister
I hate my para
Dad's stupid and a bully
You are mean and don't care
I was restrained in school
James in class is a jerk (insert name of any kid here)
School breakfast svcked
School lunch svcked
the teacher is stupid and boring
math is stupid (insert name of subject here)
reading is boring
etc, etc, etc
Anyone seeing a theme that he has absolutely NO responsibility for what he's doing?
My hands hurt, my coffee is ice cold, and I'm beat. I'll stop here.
Thanks for the rant!
Beth
He's driving me insane. Morning, noon and night it's the same thing. I want to take that "chip" that's perpetually on his shoulder and stick it where the sun don't shine.
Every morning it's the same g.d. thing. You try and get him up pleasantly and he's wound up like a spring. He yells at his brother and sister CONSTANTLY. "Shut up" "get out of my room" "stay on your side" and then the every other second "no". I've tried matter of fact, I've tried kindness, I've tried joking, I've tried understanding. He's just full of p!ss and vinegar. 24-7. He goes to bed the same way.
Therapy this week was a flipping joke. I finally informed him and his therapist that I'll show up 2 more times and if it seems that we're trying to work and HE'S not, I'm not coming. Until he recognizes that HE'S the one with the problem, it can't be fixed and I'm sick of wasting my time. The last 3 sessions were BS of trying to drag it out so that he could ride home with me rather than finish the day at school.
One must keep in mind that although family therapy is once a month, I volunteered to come an extra session every month so that we can help him.
They refuse to work with the Aspergers issues until he gets his conduct into the human level. He can't get it to the human level until I can figure out if the Concerta/Strattera (he's been on the concerta for 3 years, the strattera for 2 months) is increasing his aggression/aggitation or do we need to add a mood stablizer. I'm on the internet constantly trying to research and he spends an average of 2 days in the Crisis room at school.
When he's in crisis now, everything escalates - now with throwing chairs and running (he hasn't run out of rooms in 3 years).
husband was out of work for almost 2 years, went through a depression, we almost split up, found a position at the beginning of December and is too tired to spend time with this kid by the end of the day. This is now an additional excuse for why the behavior is getting worse.
There reasons this kid gives are as follows:
you don't even love me
Dad doesn't play Yugioh with me
everyone's an idiot
the school *****
I hate my brother
I hate my sister
I hate my para
Dad's stupid and a bully
You are mean and don't care
I was restrained in school
James in class is a jerk (insert name of any kid here)
School breakfast svcked
School lunch svcked
the teacher is stupid and boring
math is stupid (insert name of subject here)
reading is boring
etc, etc, etc
Anyone seeing a theme that he has absolutely NO responsibility for what he's doing?
My hands hurt, my coffee is ice cold, and I'm beat. I'll stop here.
Thanks for the rant!
Beth