Sorry TM. SO gets testy about his mom sometimes - I get the "but I promised her I would take care of her" and now WE have her in a home. The "taking care of" stuff was done by me, and I was pushing him to get her placed before my surgery next week as there is absolutely no way I can be lifting her with abdominal surgery - I already developed a hernia from my surgery in January they now have to fix as well because she is obese, and he blew out his back when she fell twice trying to let her hit the floor gently.
SO is always going thru the "what could I have done better" senario but when he gets put out with me, I try and keep in mind he is feeling guilty, especially when she gets on a roll about how she should have stayed in Arizona where she had friends and people who loved her, and now I am here in this home.
Its probably going to be hard for your husband for a while..
Hugs
Marcie