It makes sense to me, Tanya. We just think differently. One isn't worse or better than the other.
To me, my mom was my womb. Other than that, she did not care for me. Abortion was illegal back then. One thing she used to tell me was, "When I was pregnant, I didn't feel anything, but all my friends told me I'd love you once I held you. But when I did, I still felt nothing, absolutely nothing." So, yeah, she gave me life and I struggled but I do love my life.
On the other hand, dogs breed. So do lower forms of life. It's not an art and she didn't pick ME out to have as her child and she certainly made it clear she was unhappy with me.
I moved on without forgiveness. I just put the past where it belongs, in the past. NOBODY can affect me unless I allow it. I take that responsibility on myself. I know if I'd been sexually abused, I would hope to meet that person in the next life (I believe in this) and deal with it then. I would not try to fight my feelings on earth about it. I do believe in karma and if it doesn't happen here, to me, in my belief system, it happens later.
In my belief system we are here to learn to love other people. It's all about love. But I do believe my higher power will understand certain people. I'll see.
We both did what we needed to do to move on. And I'm so happy for you that you were able to do so and I'm happy for me too.WE MADE IT!