So glad I found this site! Here's my story So we got a call one Sunday morning in May at about 3 AM. It was my son, calling from his university dorm room, frantic that people were posting lies about him on Facebook. The roommates called security. Not sure what role they played, but he managed to calm down, and did come back to reality. He has not had another episode since as this was apparantly fueled by a combination of Adderal and alcohol. Then we got a call from the Dean of Students telling us to come pick him up. So we did. (The school was 3 hours away, the farthest I would ever send him) DS was the perfect son for a week, finished his classes (the profs were understanding and let him finish from home) and was being very cooperative with our rules (we had decided to give him NO spending money unless he earned it, made him apply for jobs, etc. While at school he had run up a large credit card bill buying fast food and liquor etc.) When he got back, I made him give me the credit card back. Then I discovered the credit card missing from my purse, and unauthorized charges from his taking his friends to a bar, getting an Adderal script filled early, etc. So we took away his laptop as a punishment, and he retaliated by running away and selling his Adderal as he had no money. Came home, had it out with his dad, ran away again and then we had to get the police involved as we recieved an alarming text message from him stating that he was "coming close" to hurting himself (it was determined that he was not in danger of doing this) Alcohol abuse has been ongoing; I have been finding empty bottles around for a year. His excuse has been that he brings the leftover booze home from the parties, and we are "freaking out" about nothing. If he earns any money and he doesn't go out to meet his friends, it goes for booze. We are still finding the bottles and smelling it around. He seems to have a high tolerance for it, which is really scary. He has been going to a therapist, and we (his parents) have met with the therapist twice; however ds has not signed any release of information form. So he is going to be very upset when he goes to see the psychiatric in July and finds out that she knows about the Adderal abuse. So he does chores occasionally for money, or to use the car. Right now he is at a wedding. He has no money, no credit card, no wedding card with a gift in it. He was offered odd jobs by some relatives to earn money for the gift, but he did not follow up. He expected us to front him the money for the gift. He stomped out yesterday after a fight with husband (ds hates his dad, says he is "toxic:; husband often acts as the heavy although lately husband and I have been presenting a united front on advice from the therapist so that he cannot play one of us against the other) He spent the night with his friends and is presently sponging off them. Ds says his problems are all our fault and stem from the fact that we brought him to the doctor who put him on antidepressants when he was 16; states he has "brain damage" from the antidepressants. He says he has little motivation to work, do chores, study, etc. without the Adderal. The one good thing is that he is taking a class this summer to meet some of his requirements so that he can graduate (eventually). It does keep him busy at least three days a week as he has to take a bus and a train to get there, and then he stays with his uncle who lives not too far away from that institution. This kid, despite his struggles with the adhd, learning disabilities, etc., has had a pretty good life. A large supportive extended family, parents in a stable marriage, travel, Catholic high school and private university,etc. We tried hard to raise our kids as best we could, and didn't spoil them. It worked for our daughter, but not for our son. I lock up my wallet and my money now. I have warned my husband and daughter to do the same. Is there anything else I should be doing?