In all honestly, I think every couple thinking of making a permanent commitment to each other should undergo couples counseling before making that commitment.
Going. While I agree with you in theory I do not have the confidence that do you in the mental health profession. I have seen hubris and power seeking, the willingness to put themselves first, the believing in their own glory.
I have experienced and seen too much. Perhaps I am the limiting factor. Because I know others have a far different sense of things. I wish I was still trusting and believing. I wish life had not taught me otherwise.
And there are men, like M, who would never go. He does not have confidence in most professionals nor would he put his business out there.
Today I had an upset with a physician's office. I was prescribed blood work last year and neither my medicare nor my very excellent secondary insurance would not pay because the physician was too arrogant to correct a coding error, he had made. I am being billed hundreds of dollars because the doctor wrote the wrong code and will not hear he made an error.
He put Lung Nodule, with the wrong code.
When they called asking for him to resubmit he would not. *All his staff needed to do was put in the correct code number for lung nodule. Or any of several diagnoses I was being treated for that required blood work.
He told the lab:
I don't care whether she has to pay or not. I will not lie just so she doesn't have to pay. (Which was completely not what he was being asked to do by the lab.)
It was not a question of lying, but a question of doing his job correctly and not abusing people.