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toughlovin
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Hi all,
It has been a rough week for me since my son was readmitted to the hospital on Thursday. I just do very well when I don't have much info. I took him stuff on Friday and he could barely talk to me. Yesterday we were going to go visit but then he texted us and told us he would prefer Sunday. I just felt like I didn't have much info.... and then I heard some stuff from other people that may me worry about his latest court case and I started worrying about if he goes to jail....I mean they finally are getting to a real diagnosis for him, and he is actually seeing help, jail would be a disaster..
So I just got into a funk about it all. Couldn't pull myself together to post here coherently! We went out fro dinner with a friend last night and I started saying the first part of the serenity prayer to myself...."Accept the things you cannot change"..... because really at this point it is out of my hands.
I woke up in a better mood this morning, knowing we would see him today. I told myself I would be happy if he still wants help.
So we just had a good visit with him. He is kind of mad he is inpatient because he feels the partial program was really helping him, and he doesn't have the privledge for going off the locked unit. A person came in to check how he was doing and he was very direct about how he was feeling but also pretty appropriate. I told him he was caught by the weekend and some of that will be sorted out tomorrow. He is probably right at this point he doesn't need to be on a locked inpatient unit, and my guess is they will discharge him on Monday or Tuesday.
He did tell us what happened and yes he took some drugs.... had a delayed but pretty bad reaction. I stayed very calm about every thing, didn't lecture, he admitted it was stupid, and I commented that it seems like twice now it has landed him in the hospital...and that yes the hospital has to be careful and yes it was kind of stupid and self sabatoging. He said he is done doing any drugs and seems sincere. (yes yes I know we have heard that before and so although he seems sincere that can change in an instant). I don't think the sober house knows anything about it. Sigh.
Anyway the positive thing is he wants the partial hospitalization program. He feels that is helpful. And he is definitely open to the outpatient program later. I still feel he really wants to help himself, even if he is screwing up royally along the way.... that is all about his pattern.
I was able to say to him, ok so look at how you self sabatoged yourself and see what that is about in a very non judgemental way,
It is a whole lot easier to stay neutral, support THEM, love them when they DO NOT live with you!!!!
So hopefully he will be discharged in the next couple of days and go back to the partial program.
TL
It has been a rough week for me since my son was readmitted to the hospital on Thursday. I just do very well when I don't have much info. I took him stuff on Friday and he could barely talk to me. Yesterday we were going to go visit but then he texted us and told us he would prefer Sunday. I just felt like I didn't have much info.... and then I heard some stuff from other people that may me worry about his latest court case and I started worrying about if he goes to jail....I mean they finally are getting to a real diagnosis for him, and he is actually seeing help, jail would be a disaster..
So I just got into a funk about it all. Couldn't pull myself together to post here coherently! We went out fro dinner with a friend last night and I started saying the first part of the serenity prayer to myself...."Accept the things you cannot change"..... because really at this point it is out of my hands.
I woke up in a better mood this morning, knowing we would see him today. I told myself I would be happy if he still wants help.
So we just had a good visit with him. He is kind of mad he is inpatient because he feels the partial program was really helping him, and he doesn't have the privledge for going off the locked unit. A person came in to check how he was doing and he was very direct about how he was feeling but also pretty appropriate. I told him he was caught by the weekend and some of that will be sorted out tomorrow. He is probably right at this point he doesn't need to be on a locked inpatient unit, and my guess is they will discharge him on Monday or Tuesday.
He did tell us what happened and yes he took some drugs.... had a delayed but pretty bad reaction. I stayed very calm about every thing, didn't lecture, he admitted it was stupid, and I commented that it seems like twice now it has landed him in the hospital...and that yes the hospital has to be careful and yes it was kind of stupid and self sabatoging. He said he is done doing any drugs and seems sincere. (yes yes I know we have heard that before and so although he seems sincere that can change in an instant). I don't think the sober house knows anything about it. Sigh.
Anyway the positive thing is he wants the partial hospitalization program. He feels that is helpful. And he is definitely open to the outpatient program later. I still feel he really wants to help himself, even if he is screwing up royally along the way.... that is all about his pattern.
I was able to say to him, ok so look at how you self sabatoged yourself and see what that is about in a very non judgemental way,
It is a whole lot easier to stay neutral, support THEM, love them when they DO NOT live with you!!!!
So hopefully he will be discharged in the next couple of days and go back to the partial program.
TL