Shari
IsItFridayYet?
Just a vent.
I let myself get sucked into this way too many times.
I belong to a group of women who had babies the same time as difficult child 2 was born. There's one in the group who is ultra-religious, stay at home mom, with perfect kids. She recently had a neice diagnosed with a birth defect and emailed the whole group about it. She was worried about people staring and being mean, and I told her that you'll have that, but you'll also meet a lot of people along the way that have this defect or deal with it daily, and they'll come real close to making up for the a-holes out there. She asked how I knew, and I was stupid and answered. Dumb me, just trying to be nice and say she'll find some positives in this...
And here's her "non-judging reply". Why do I do this to myself??? I know better then to attempt to converse with this woman.
> Why does your kid have seizures and fits?
> Maybe some people just don't know he has that
> condition. There are so many kids that throw fits
> for no reasons nowadays, it is hard to be around. I
> have seen kids my daughter's age hitting a parent in the
> face in a fit! Maybe they had some reason for it, I
> don't know. I don't think it is good to compare at
> all with other peope because we all fall short of
> the Christ's glory. On the other hand, I try and
> avoid fit throwers. I was trying to help my friend
> once in a public setting and she said I could give
> her son a certain kind of juice (they are big on
> organic stuff, etc). The chid threw a fit when I
> gave him the drink. I thought he might hurt himself.
> He demanded I give him something his mom did not
> autorize me to give him. Instead of having him frail
> his arms, around me, I simply walked away. It is sad
> the child has not learned self control. I am not
> judging him but worry he will hurt himself. Other
> kids, out of control (without a valid reason),
> usually hurt my kids. The same
> night, the girl (the one I babysat) jumped on
> my daughter's head. My daughter NEVER cries, she is tough as
> nails physically, but this lightweight girl bent
> my daughter's neck down and really hurt her. My daughter was
> crying! And the kids also knocked down my other's
> friend newly walking son-without any sorrys. It is
> always a room of screaming and running, which my
> kids will not do. I have gotten to the point of not
> being able to be around such kids to protect my
> children. Again, these kids have no reasons to be
> this way other than lack of guidance and focusing on
> others, instead of self.
> Anyway, I just had to point that out. No, it is
> not good to be judemental but it is proper to
> discern right from wrong, and protect one's own
> children.
> I could go on about my daughter being punched in the
> face by her cousin and my other daughter getting hit
> repeatidely in the face with a wooden train at a
> friend's house (was highly upsetting to me). but I
> have learned that I am not the parent of other
> people's kids but I will not have certain chidren
> around my own. Less bloodshed that way
I let myself get sucked into this way too many times.
I belong to a group of women who had babies the same time as difficult child 2 was born. There's one in the group who is ultra-religious, stay at home mom, with perfect kids. She recently had a neice diagnosed with a birth defect and emailed the whole group about it. She was worried about people staring and being mean, and I told her that you'll have that, but you'll also meet a lot of people along the way that have this defect or deal with it daily, and they'll come real close to making up for the a-holes out there. She asked how I knew, and I was stupid and answered. Dumb me, just trying to be nice and say she'll find some positives in this...
And here's her "non-judging reply". Why do I do this to myself??? I know better then to attempt to converse with this woman.
> Why does your kid have seizures and fits?
> Maybe some people just don't know he has that
> condition. There are so many kids that throw fits
> for no reasons nowadays, it is hard to be around. I
> have seen kids my daughter's age hitting a parent in the
> face in a fit! Maybe they had some reason for it, I
> don't know. I don't think it is good to compare at
> all with other peope because we all fall short of
> the Christ's glory. On the other hand, I try and
> avoid fit throwers. I was trying to help my friend
> once in a public setting and she said I could give
> her son a certain kind of juice (they are big on
> organic stuff, etc). The chid threw a fit when I
> gave him the drink. I thought he might hurt himself.
> He demanded I give him something his mom did not
> autorize me to give him. Instead of having him frail
> his arms, around me, I simply walked away. It is sad
> the child has not learned self control. I am not
> judging him but worry he will hurt himself. Other
> kids, out of control (without a valid reason),
> usually hurt my kids. The same
> night, the girl (the one I babysat) jumped on
> my daughter's head. My daughter NEVER cries, she is tough as
> nails physically, but this lightweight girl bent
> my daughter's neck down and really hurt her. My daughter was
> crying! And the kids also knocked down my other's
> friend newly walking son-without any sorrys. It is
> always a room of screaming and running, which my
> kids will not do. I have gotten to the point of not
> being able to be around such kids to protect my
> children. Again, these kids have no reasons to be
> this way other than lack of guidance and focusing on
> others, instead of self.
> Anyway, I just had to point that out. No, it is
> not good to be judemental but it is proper to
> discern right from wrong, and protect one's own
> children.
> I could go on about my daughter being punched in the
> face by her cousin and my other daughter getting hit
> repeatidely in the face with a wooden train at a
> friend's house (was highly upsetting to me). but I
> have learned that I am not the parent of other
> people's kids but I will not have certain chidren
> around my own. Less bloodshed that way