Mom2oddson
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It's so strange how life has turned out. difficult child-A (Ant) is out on his own. He's in an apartment with a friend. Not sure how long he'll be there since he got fired from his job, but he's doing things on his own and living with his consequences. He comes over to visit once in a while. But that is it. There is no more drama with him.
difficult child-S (Steph) is still living with the Evil mother in law. Steph has NOTHING to do with us. She won't talk to us or return a call or visit. She's disowned us. And neither husband or I want anything to do with mother in law. She can have our money but that's all she is getting from us. husband has even started to refer to his Mom by her name not "mom". I think that relationship is just about done.
easy child is off at college and doing well.
So, our life is very quiet... our biggest drama is how to pet three dogs when you only have two hands.
And I don't know if it's a yin-yang thing or what, but I've noticed that for every negative is my life, there is a positive that balances it out. For the mother in law from he!! there is a fantastic husband. For the job that takes husband away for months on end, there is a love that grows stronger everyday. For his parents that stabbed us in the back while smiling, we have my parents that have our back thru thick and thin. For the difficult child (steph) that caused so much pain, there is now a house with no drama.
It's hard having no drama in my house. I feel like a fish out of water. I don't know what to do without the constant turmoil. And I feel quilty being here when my life is so quiet. Yet, I know that I am welcome here. And....I've been here long enough to know to enjoy the quiet because with difficult child's it doesn't stay quiet for long. Somewhere down the road, the stuff will hit the fan and we will have to duck quickly to avoid being hit by it.
difficult child-S (Steph) is still living with the Evil mother in law. Steph has NOTHING to do with us. She won't talk to us or return a call or visit. She's disowned us. And neither husband or I want anything to do with mother in law. She can have our money but that's all she is getting from us. husband has even started to refer to his Mom by her name not "mom". I think that relationship is just about done.
easy child is off at college and doing well.
So, our life is very quiet... our biggest drama is how to pet three dogs when you only have two hands.
And I don't know if it's a yin-yang thing or what, but I've noticed that for every negative is my life, there is a positive that balances it out. For the mother in law from he!! there is a fantastic husband. For the job that takes husband away for months on end, there is a love that grows stronger everyday. For his parents that stabbed us in the back while smiling, we have my parents that have our back thru thick and thin. For the difficult child (steph) that caused so much pain, there is now a house with no drama.
It's hard having no drama in my house. I feel like a fish out of water. I don't know what to do without the constant turmoil. And I feel quilty being here when my life is so quiet. Yet, I know that I am welcome here. And....I've been here long enough to know to enjoy the quiet because with difficult child's it doesn't stay quiet for long. Somewhere down the road, the stuff will hit the fan and we will have to duck quickly to avoid being hit by it.