amys3yungins
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My son will be 22 on Nov. 9th. He is addicted to Opana. He has been a difficult child from a young age. I had him counseling at the age of 9 and then again around 15. At the older age, he would just tell the counselor what he wanted to hear. Over the years he would threaten to kill himself, never wanted to take responsibility for his decisions, burned himself once with a cigarette, cut his arm very superficially, all these types of acting out for attention and to get his way. He started smoking pot around age 15 and hanging with the wrong crowd. He has never been officially diagnosed with anything but he has lousy self esteem and just lets the cards fall where they may. He did graduate high school in 2010 and at that time I told him he better get a job or be kicked out as he was just fine laying around with no responsibility. I told him he had 30 days. He got the job on day 29! LOL! Anyway, he was comfortable spending every dime, not having any money for gas, never saving up etc... I finally did charge him a little rent and he would pay it. He signed up for college very reluctantly last spring (finally at age 21). He started with 4 classed but only completed 2. I would see him come home with his eyes all red and acting / talking really "laid back" like a stoner. I began to find small straws in his pockets while doing laundry from time to time. He ended up on probation for a drug paraphenalia (did I spell that right?) charge. He was failing drug test with his PO and not paying his money to her. He informed me that he would not have "my little rent money" and so I took the key back and he moved in with friends. That just fell apart a couple of weeks ago and now he is homeless because i will not allow him to live with us. 3 days ago, he came by and asked me if he could wash his clothes. I agreed and fed him a taco too. He stole my husband's watch on the way out. Long story short, I retrieved the watch from a pawn store. I told my son he is no longer welcome at my house. This is very painful. I have done a slow detachment over the last several months but now it is going to have to be complete. I told him that I have nothing for him and there is nothing I can do for him. He is going to have to figure it out. My prayer is that The Lord will shape him into the man that he created him to be. I look forward to the day that he hits bottom and will seek recovery. Thanks to an older sister who has been through all this **** too with her son who is a recovering heroin addict, she has taught me how to let go and not spend my energy going in circles with all the drama. I'm determined to live my life in a happy way and to not enable him. I watched my mother enable my brother for years and he is currently in prison for armed robbery. He will be 50 next year. It is very helpful to have this forum for support though. Thanks.
Amy
Amy
