Tiredof33
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My 35yo son left his sister a phone message that he was trying to reconcile past relationships. He left his cell number and said he wanted to contact me before he was cut off, she said it wasn't a good connection, but she was able to get his number.
He has been no contact for almost a year from everyone that I know. I think it's very selfish of a person to do that, I can understand him not wanting to talk to me, but he cut off everyone. Most of it was over the strange suicidal posts and fights on FB.
He has my home phone number and email address so I'm puzzled that he didn't send a text message. He called his sister when he knew she would be at work. I had to think about a way to contact him, to let him know he is still my son and I love him, at the same time letting him know that the relationship we had in the past will never be revived. And that is a good thing!!
As much as I dislike FB, and I think it is so immature to have it as my only means of communication, I posted him a message that I was glad he was in contact with his family again and I hoped all is well. I did sign off love mom. I didn't want to text because I don't want him to have my cell number. I didn't call from the land line because I really don't think he is in treatment, and usually the only time I hear from him involves money, so I'm cautious.
He is posting pics of the two of them together on FB, so he's no longer trying to hide that fact that they are together. I hope they are both off the drugs and alcohol and in some kind of a program. She's on probation for a DUI and I wish she had been court ordered to rehab or something.
I am glad to know that he is OK, but we will only have a superficial relationship at best. He lies too much so I won't ask any questions. The one thing for certain, no sob story he can conjure up will ever compel me to give money ever again.
I'm am so surprised that the mother has let them move in with her. They set his personal belongings outside in the rain and most of it was stolen. girlfriend came after him with a knife and he had her arrested. He told some easy child friends that girlfriend had done some really bad things in her life and he was afraid she would kill him.
Now all of that is in the past and I don't want any part of it so I will stay detached. Hubby says he thinks it is just the way her family acts together. It's just one of those things that makes you go hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!
(((hugs)))
He has been no contact for almost a year from everyone that I know. I think it's very selfish of a person to do that, I can understand him not wanting to talk to me, but he cut off everyone. Most of it was over the strange suicidal posts and fights on FB.
He has my home phone number and email address so I'm puzzled that he didn't send a text message. He called his sister when he knew she would be at work. I had to think about a way to contact him, to let him know he is still my son and I love him, at the same time letting him know that the relationship we had in the past will never be revived. And that is a good thing!!
As much as I dislike FB, and I think it is so immature to have it as my only means of communication, I posted him a message that I was glad he was in contact with his family again and I hoped all is well. I did sign off love mom. I didn't want to text because I don't want him to have my cell number. I didn't call from the land line because I really don't think he is in treatment, and usually the only time I hear from him involves money, so I'm cautious.
He is posting pics of the two of them together on FB, so he's no longer trying to hide that fact that they are together. I hope they are both off the drugs and alcohol and in some kind of a program. She's on probation for a DUI and I wish she had been court ordered to rehab or something.
I am glad to know that he is OK, but we will only have a superficial relationship at best. He lies too much so I won't ask any questions. The one thing for certain, no sob story he can conjure up will ever compel me to give money ever again.
I'm am so surprised that the mother has let them move in with her. They set his personal belongings outside in the rain and most of it was stolen. girlfriend came after him with a knife and he had her arrested. He told some easy child friends that girlfriend had done some really bad things in her life and he was afraid she would kill him.
Now all of that is in the past and I don't want any part of it so I will stay detached. Hubby says he thinks it is just the way her family acts together. It's just one of those things that makes you go hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!
(((hugs)))