Amaze,
Are you LEGALLY separated?
I ask because I was not "on paper" legally separated. I had left due to being tortured, battered, etc. But never went to an atty. to make it OFFICIAL.
Here are some interesting facts for YOUR viewing displeasure:
1.) I was married 13 years. In that time - my xmil did our taxes. I worked 3 jobs - DF was a sub contractor. He NEVER payed his taxes from the last 5 years we were together. He told me MY pay taxes paid for his taxes and we broke even. Lie. He got 5 years of refunds, signed my name, gave his Mom a kickback and no one was the wiser.
I went to the IRS my 1st year single - and "WE" owed - $40,000.00. I had an IRS fraud investigator - I had to do a hand writing analsys. I had to pay the gov't. (no lie) $22,000.00 instead of $40,000.00 because a.) I was STILL married /yet separated after the fact.
2.) I didn't have bad credit - I had no credit. After I was separated, the psychiatrist told me I needed to put down roots - I went to buy a house for me and Dude. IMAGINE MY SURPRISE when I got turned down DUE TO UNPAID BILLS !!!!! To the tune of $42,000 +. Let's see.........he got a woman looks like me, practiced my signature and went to an auto dealer and GOT A BRAND NEW TRUCK......drove it, wrecked it, sold it to someone without a title - and I WAS RESPONSIBLE FOR IT!!!!!!!! I was being hauled into court by FORD motor company - AGAIN with the handwriting - and they said if my handwriting was even CLOSE - I got the entire bill. OMG I was freaking. I did it - they said "It could be me" and took him to court - which he of course NEVER showed up for. It was a black mark on my credit until June of THIS YEAR - and THAT was OVER 12 years ago.
Utilities, phone companies, credit cards for clothes, fancy motels, air plane tickets - ALL on MY DIME......cash advances on numerous credit cards IN MY NAME - and here's the big kicker - if I wanted to prosecute? I had to come out of hiding and face him in court - give MY HOME address and phone - and face DYING and having my son kidnapped again. Yeah - that was going to happen. I tried to fill out police reports with them KNOWING I was in fear for my life - and AGAIN - he had family in law enforcement in that town, higher ups in places I can't touch.....so guess what? ANOTHER bad mark on my credit - and I paid THAT down as much as I could.
I think - I went DAYS without eating so Dude could - I paid for my OWN DIVORCE, I never EVER got a dime from him - no child support (again had to tell where I was) and over and over and over this man just kept getting away with it ALL!!!!!
So when your attorney tells you - NO you are not responsible? GET IT IN WRITING. Because MY attorney told me THE SAME THING - and when the taxes came out he was like - WELL YOU DIDN"T TELL ME ABOUT THAT......or the TRUCK OR THE THIS OR THE THAT......and I got ROYALLY DUNKED.
I finally after 3 years, working doubles and triples- managed to get straightened out enough to buy a home for me and Dude
Please get it in writing........A statement from your atty about your joint taxes - the house any assetts.
AND STAY MAD GIRL...DANG DID YOU THINK I WAS LYIN' TO YA???????
Hugs and Love
STar