Our difficult child has been living in city about 45 min from here. Doing drugs probably , irresponsible, tearful, maybe working some, it's just hard to know what is true and what isn't. So we have gone from rescuing and enabling to a no trespassing order and a restraining order over last 6 months. He calls from other's cell phones to my work or his sister, always with a story and plea for some money. I would still give in once in awhile in past weeks but since he said he was snorting heroin two weeks ago, I just clicked into a clarity of thinking as far as giving him no money. (Even though he told his sister he made up the story about heroin and needing his tires fixed so he could drive to detox, just to get cash. ) there is no way you can believe anything he says and it drives me crazy . i am pretty ok if i just dont speak with him at all. Last night he showed up at door after many phone calls where we said if you come here we are calling police. We called them and he took off before they got here. Now he has a warrant and will stay away, but his daughter is coming for Christmas week and he desperately wants to see her. She is going to be very sad also if she doesn't see him. Wow, I am tired.