That may come in time.I want to feel as ecstatic over her as I do with my other kids
There is so much that she CAN learn - it will just take a lot longer.
Other parents (of "typical" kids) won't understand your joy when it happens.
But WE do.
That may come in time.I want to feel as ecstatic over her as I do with my other kids
Lots of us have had to learn this lesson.let go a little of the iron control I usually try to have,
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Well I've revised my working hypothesis since coming to this group.
I thought it was just defiant behavior but some of the things these ladies talk about I've noticed in tk before.
Tk
Extremely smart
Performs over grade level
Emotional maturity is younger
Has issues making friends own age
Not so much the keeping of them as the making of them. She has one solid friend who just turned seven.
She's bossy
She's not over sensitive if anything under sensitive
Doesn't react to people or things like most kids do
Has only recently started wanting to be hugged or touched.
She doesn't have interests she has obsessions
Has a slight motor delay. Can't open a soda can or the top of a water bottle. Took a long time about opening doors
Underweight
Doesn't eat well but eating better than she ever has before now but has issues with texture or colors and separating things on a plate. For six years she would eat approximately 5 foods. Now it's up to about 20.
Will get in trouble for the same thing every day and still keeps doing it.
Doesn't care how other people feel.
More heart broken over the death of a cat than the death of her grand father who she was close to.
Seems like the only things she absolutely doesn't do are the things that have been drilled into her since birth. Don't hit mom so she hits brother instead.
Takes out most of her anger on her brother
Gets angry with very little provocation
"He ate my cookie" after she tried to shake him to death
"He touched my towel" she pounced on him tackling him to the ground"
Manipulative
Literal
Nothing really penetrates.
She is either happy or angry there is no sad or anything in between.
She never shuts up
She asks questions over and over that she knows the answer to.
A lot of people think I'm mental for thinking anything is wrong with her most people would not notice what's going on with her on a short visit or over a day or two.
Her baby sitter was the first person to come to me about the same things I was noticing.
My husband who is her step father before he completely lost his grip mentioned some of the same things that concerned me.
My mom who previously told me I was crazy for thinking anything was wrong with her spent a month with us and no longer thinks I'm crazy.
Tk doesn't curse. I'm glad she doesn't but it might make me feel better about her emotional growth if I ever caught her just once.
She doesn't notice boys not even "he's cute!"
I know boys don't really notice girls at that age but tk's younger best friend thinks this kids music singer Matty b is dreamy and wants to marry him when she gets older. I am not really sure if that's part of it or not but I know I had a couple of crushes by that age I thought prince William was dreamy.
I need to put together a list for every time someone asks me this question so I can notice quicker what behaviors are sticking around when they started that kind of thing.
JMO... there is always an answer. We may not know how to find the answers... they answers may not have been found yet. But there will be a reason.
"Just temperament" to me is a cop-out. I prefer "wired differently"... which acknowledges that there are reasons why difficult child is what he/she is, and it's not about learning to change your temperament (sorry, spent too many years being told that).