Why are you still in contact with these people? It is time to sever all ties and move forward. Exdh and his family are toxic to your recovery. You need to move forward and as long as the ties that bind are in place, you will be held back. Cut the ties, block their emails and cell #'s. Go forward. You've taken the first step, but you need to keep walking in that direction---towards the future, which is full of wonderful, exciting things.