We talked to the neighbors

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by TerryJ2, Aug 18, 2008.

  1. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    I am so glad I waited a day and let everything cool off.

    I called first and said we were going to stop by.

    We stood in the door and I handed them the two notes and the gift card (they didn't really look at anything, just took it).
    We had a very nice chat. husband was very concerned that the H would still be irate but he had calmed down.

    We told them we were working with-difficult child and they understood. In fact, the mom had specificially instructed the police to scare the ^(#*@*#$ off of difficult child and not press charges, and she said, "Did it work? Did they do what I asked?"

    Yes. ;)
    And H added, "We love difficult child. The kids have grown up together. It's really sad we can't have him over any more."
    We agreed and thanked them.

    I feel like there's a bit of closure there. Whew. :whiteflag::anxious:
     
  2. Fran

    Fran Former Site Owner

    You are handling this all with grace and dignity. :thumbsup:
    It is a difficult situation. Way To Go! A lot of people would have taken the offensive/defensive attitude. You are simply seeing what it is and trying to make amends. Hugs.
     
  3. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    I'm glad that you were able to sit down and talk with them calmly about your feelings and concerns. I hope that things will settle down as much as is possible.
     
  4. OpenWindow

    OpenWindow Active Member

    I think you're handling this spectacularly. And I think your neighbors are too.

    Hopefully, the police did scare him enough to think twice if he gets this sort of idea in his head again.
     
  5. Shari

    Shari IsItFridayYet?

    You' and your neighbors have handled this so well that these people may be willing to help you out again down the road if difficult child keeps his nose clean. Who knows. But bravo!
     
  6. totoro

    totoro Mom? What's a GFG?

    I wish more people would think things through and "try" to work it out. This is most likely a great learning/growing experience for all of you! Even the neighbors.
     
  7. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    I can't tell you how happy I am to have read this post! How nice that the neighbors were cordial.

    I am pulling for difficult child all the way.
     
  8. DazedandConfused

    DazedandConfused Active Member

    I strongly believe that having good relationships with the neighbors can be more important than family.

    You handled yourself so well. Good for you. Kudos to the neighbors. This has to be so difficult for them, also.
     
  9. trinityroyal

    trinityroyal Well-Known Member

    Terry,
    I'm so glad to hear that the neighbours are being understanding and rational about this.
    You've all handled the situation so well.

    Whew!
     
  10. nvts

    nvts Active Member

    I think all of you deserve a round of applause! Everyone has really stepped up and keeping the priorities where they lie, with difficult child "getting it"!

    Congratulations!

    Beth
     
  11. mrscatinthehat

    mrscatinthehat Seussical

    That is amazing. So glad that they were willing to work with you guys not against.

    beth
     
  12. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Count me in the group that thinks you have handled this extremely well! You rock!
     
  13. Calgon_Take_Me_Away

    Calgon_Take_Me_Away New Member

    Glad to hear your neighborly relationship is going to survive their breech of privacy! I applaud both sets of parents for their ability to communicate!

    Hope difficult child keeps it in his head next time he has a choice to make!
     
  14. ML

    ML Guest

    Wow, this is huge. I'm so proud of you girl.
     
  15. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    Terry,

    What a graceful way to handle a difficult situation. Your neighbors were gracious as well.

    :lady::flower:
     
  16. jannie

    jannie trying to survive....

    I am so glad you were able to talk to the neighbors and follow up. You've done a great job handling a really stressful situation.....
     
  17. seekinghope

    seekinghope New Member

    WHEW!
    There must be a huge feeling of relief all around.
    Glad your family can put this behind them.
     
  18. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Thank you.
    Yes, a relief.
    Now, to do the harder work with-the psychiatric ...
     
  19. amazeofgrace

    amazeofgrace New Member

    <<<HUgs>>> that had to have been so hard. I am glad they reciprocated your grace
     
  20. Nomad

    Nomad Guest

    Wow...I missed a day on the board and so much has happened.
    So many positives here! The neighbors, particularly the mom, sound like really good people. And the police did a really top notch job helping out all around. Hopefully, difficult child wiill have learned something.
    I think you handled this very stressful situation with grace and dignitiy...sending good thoughts and prayers for you and your family.
     
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