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difficult child was ejected from his baseball game today. He struck out and while walking back to the dugout he was banging his bat on the ground in anger and as he got into the dugout, he threw ( hard) his bat on the ground and his helmet too but the helmet hit all the bats on the wall and knocked them all down and the umpire ejected him for poor sportsmanlike behavior. He was also told he not only had to leave the dugout, but could not even remain in the baseball park! His team is in a weekend tournament and then we come to find, if you are ejected in one game, you can not play in any remaining games. Honestly, I find that part a bit strict. Even in the prof. baseball games, if a player is ejected, they can play in the next game. Not that I am condoning difficult child actions in the least but again, these are kids and they do deserve a 2nd chance. With all of difficult child problems, this has never happened to him.
Now difficult child being who he is, when we got our stuff and left, I tried to speak with him.....he told me it was the umpires fault because he called the strike and if he was a better umpire and made a better call, difficult child would not have struck out and he would not have had to get mad!!?? Are you kidding me?? Oh and all umpires make bad calls against him more than anybody else!!
How do you get thru ever to someone with this kind of thinking? How do you make him see his actions are his responsibility? Maybe the umpire made a bad call but difficult child chose to react the wrong way and got himself in trouble. We have been thru years of counseling, psychiatric., etc... and nothing helps to change this thinking pattern or help him keep his calm in moments like this.
Besides my anger and embarrasement, I am more sad for difficult child because baseball is his passion. He looks so forward to his games, etc... I wish I could some how help him from losing it in time of frustration. I guess sports are no place for children with mental health issues. No one wants to hear about it or give them "extra" chances because they are different because then it sets a bad example. Very frustrating. In a "normal" child, this bad experience would serve as an example and that sort of behavior would not happen again but with a difficult child type of child, not so much because it is hard for them to control themselves. difficult child has been sobbing off and on since we got home saying he wish he didn't do that! Its really hard, isn't it!
Jan
Now difficult child being who he is, when we got our stuff and left, I tried to speak with him.....he told me it was the umpires fault because he called the strike and if he was a better umpire and made a better call, difficult child would not have struck out and he would not have had to get mad!!?? Are you kidding me?? Oh and all umpires make bad calls against him more than anybody else!!
How do you get thru ever to someone with this kind of thinking? How do you make him see his actions are his responsibility? Maybe the umpire made a bad call but difficult child chose to react the wrong way and got himself in trouble. We have been thru years of counseling, psychiatric., etc... and nothing helps to change this thinking pattern or help him keep his calm in moments like this.
Besides my anger and embarrasement, I am more sad for difficult child because baseball is his passion. He looks so forward to his games, etc... I wish I could some how help him from losing it in time of frustration. I guess sports are no place for children with mental health issues. No one wants to hear about it or give them "extra" chances because they are different because then it sets a bad example. Very frustrating. In a "normal" child, this bad experience would serve as an example and that sort of behavior would not happen again but with a difficult child type of child, not so much because it is hard for them to control themselves. difficult child has been sobbing off and on since we got home saying he wish he didn't do that! Its really hard, isn't it!
Jan