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butterflydreams
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difficult child started with the Boys and Girls Club yesterday. His psychiatrist recommended that he attend some sort of summer program so not only would difficult child be occupied, but he would be able to work on his socialization skills, which he really needs. We agreed on 3 days per week of attending the Boys and Girls Club and the other 2 can be at home under easy child's care - as long as his behaviors are ok.
When I picked difficult child up last night, he said his day was alright. Later in the evening he told me that other than not getting to play pool (he loves the game), he had a good day. I thought, this is great!
This morning, difficult child starts in with I don't want to go, I hate it there, nobody likes me, they all call me fatty and there is this kid who is like a stalker and wont leave him alone even though he asks him to leave him alone. He said because this kid seemed to shadow him, the other kids wouldn't have anything to do with him. He said someone had told him to not talk to the kid because he will never leave you alone. He also said that the other kids always tell the kid to go away he stinks. difficult child said that he didn't want to do that. That was good and I told difficult child I was proud of him for not resorting to that and that the other kids probably resorted to that out of frustration.
difficult child told me that he was afraid of losing his temper if the kid continued to bug him. He said he would end up back inpatient if he lost his temper. He said that if he gets into a fight that he will finish it. I talked to difficult child and said that if the kid is truly bothering him and it is pushing his limits then he needs to tell him to please leave him alone and walk away. If this doesn't work, then he needs to go to an adult. I reminded him to use his coping skills.
difficult child would be happiest if he could just stay at home and never have to deal with anyone. That can't happen. I can't imagine spending the next couple of months with him putting up a fight 3 mornings a week about attending.
He needs to do something. I can barely afford to send him to the Boys and Girls Club as it is and any other summer programs I checked into I can't afford.
He says he enjoyed himself - AND THEN changes his tune this morning? I don't know, maybe it's the social anxiety kicking in? It's 2 weeks until his next psychiatrist appointment - thats 6 days of attending Boys and Girls Club - with potential fights every morning - UGH.
Any thoughts?
Christy
When I picked difficult child up last night, he said his day was alright. Later in the evening he told me that other than not getting to play pool (he loves the game), he had a good day. I thought, this is great!
This morning, difficult child starts in with I don't want to go, I hate it there, nobody likes me, they all call me fatty and there is this kid who is like a stalker and wont leave him alone even though he asks him to leave him alone. He said because this kid seemed to shadow him, the other kids wouldn't have anything to do with him. He said someone had told him to not talk to the kid because he will never leave you alone. He also said that the other kids always tell the kid to go away he stinks. difficult child said that he didn't want to do that. That was good and I told difficult child I was proud of him for not resorting to that and that the other kids probably resorted to that out of frustration.
difficult child told me that he was afraid of losing his temper if the kid continued to bug him. He said he would end up back inpatient if he lost his temper. He said that if he gets into a fight that he will finish it. I talked to difficult child and said that if the kid is truly bothering him and it is pushing his limits then he needs to tell him to please leave him alone and walk away. If this doesn't work, then he needs to go to an adult. I reminded him to use his coping skills.
difficult child would be happiest if he could just stay at home and never have to deal with anyone. That can't happen. I can't imagine spending the next couple of months with him putting up a fight 3 mornings a week about attending.
He needs to do something. I can barely afford to send him to the Boys and Girls Club as it is and any other summer programs I checked into I can't afford.
He says he enjoyed himself - AND THEN changes his tune this morning? I don't know, maybe it's the social anxiety kicking in? It's 2 weeks until his next psychiatrist appointment - thats 6 days of attending Boys and Girls Club - with potential fights every morning - UGH.
Any thoughts?
Christy