DammitJanet
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Tony and I went out today to run some errands and we ended up having lunch out while doing it. Of course talk turned to Buck. Mainly because he called and had to ask to go back in the house because after he had left this morning for TN he had to turn around and come back because he had forgotten his work boots and winter coat. Heaven help him, he isnt armed mentally to set out on his own. He needs a keeper.
I asked Tony if he had a clue where Buck was even going and if Tony knows, he isnt telling me. Supposedly Buck is meeting up with a guy just outside of Charlotte tonight and tomorrow they are leaving for TN. I dont even know if Buck's car will make the drive. Its an old Sunbird. One window is filled in with plexiglass. Buck really isnt physically able to work a construction job if he told these people he was a drywall mechanic. The best case scenario you could call him is a helper and he really isnt much of one of those. He is more of a cleaner who sweeps up after the guys and picks up trash. He simply is too slow. He gets lost in space and cant keep up with what the actual mechanics need. He keeps people waiting on him to get them product. It makes people mad. He wont last.
Then what? I posed that exact question to Tony. I told him that I am not letting Buck come back to our house except to stop buy with a Uhaul and get his stuff. Tony thinks we cant just do that. I am of the mind that you cant just keep enabling a person of his age to not take responsibility for his life. At some point he has to learn to stand on his own two feet because he knows that there isnt a safety net called his family. Tony and I dont have anyone to fall back on. Buck certainly isnt going to take care of us. The money he owes us is now gone. We have to write it off as a loss. Tony will never let Cory off without paying him the last 80 bucks he owes him but Buck just walked away owing us well over 500, probably more that I dont know about. I know about 800 and tony has told me he paid back 300...I dont believe he did but I have to take Tony's word. I know he paid Billy back 40 and I saw him pay Tony back 70...thats it.
Then Tony wanted to try to lump Buck in with Billy...I was actually fine with that. I said I agree that at Billy's age he should be gone. I think he should have been gone several years ago. It is Tony that has put this off.
I think Tony is having a very hard time with the letting go for some reason and Im not sure why. I said I was going to book us on Dr phil and he is convinced dr phil would say I was wrong to not allow Buck to stay with us. I dont get it. I dont think he would. Even if Buck was mentally retarded it would be within our rights to find him a home for people like him. It isnt our responsibility to take care of him.
I know TN isnt going to work out. Without a doubt. I do have a plan though. I am going to give it about a week or so for Buck to get there and all and then I am going to go into Tony's phone and fix it so that Buck's number is blocked so he cant call in anymore. He doesnt know my number. If I block the number it will also block texts.
I did tell Tony if he comes back here I will be finding him some sort of sheltered group home for mentally handicapped people because I am not doing this again. I will drag Buck kicking and screaming to get a psychiatric exam in order to get deemed eligible. I know he will meet criteria.
I asked Tony if he had a clue where Buck was even going and if Tony knows, he isnt telling me. Supposedly Buck is meeting up with a guy just outside of Charlotte tonight and tomorrow they are leaving for TN. I dont even know if Buck's car will make the drive. Its an old Sunbird. One window is filled in with plexiglass. Buck really isnt physically able to work a construction job if he told these people he was a drywall mechanic. The best case scenario you could call him is a helper and he really isnt much of one of those. He is more of a cleaner who sweeps up after the guys and picks up trash. He simply is too slow. He gets lost in space and cant keep up with what the actual mechanics need. He keeps people waiting on him to get them product. It makes people mad. He wont last.
Then what? I posed that exact question to Tony. I told him that I am not letting Buck come back to our house except to stop buy with a Uhaul and get his stuff. Tony thinks we cant just do that. I am of the mind that you cant just keep enabling a person of his age to not take responsibility for his life. At some point he has to learn to stand on his own two feet because he knows that there isnt a safety net called his family. Tony and I dont have anyone to fall back on. Buck certainly isnt going to take care of us. The money he owes us is now gone. We have to write it off as a loss. Tony will never let Cory off without paying him the last 80 bucks he owes him but Buck just walked away owing us well over 500, probably more that I dont know about. I know about 800 and tony has told me he paid back 300...I dont believe he did but I have to take Tony's word. I know he paid Billy back 40 and I saw him pay Tony back 70...thats it.
Then Tony wanted to try to lump Buck in with Billy...I was actually fine with that. I said I agree that at Billy's age he should be gone. I think he should have been gone several years ago. It is Tony that has put this off.
I think Tony is having a very hard time with the letting go for some reason and Im not sure why. I said I was going to book us on Dr phil and he is convinced dr phil would say I was wrong to not allow Buck to stay with us. I dont get it. I dont think he would. Even if Buck was mentally retarded it would be within our rights to find him a home for people like him. It isnt our responsibility to take care of him.
I know TN isnt going to work out. Without a doubt. I do have a plan though. I am going to give it about a week or so for Buck to get there and all and then I am going to go into Tony's phone and fix it so that Buck's number is blocked so he cant call in anymore. He doesnt know my number. If I block the number it will also block texts.
I did tell Tony if he comes back here I will be finding him some sort of sheltered group home for mentally handicapped people because I am not doing this again. I will drag Buck kicking and screaming to get a psychiatric exam in order to get deemed eligible. I know he will meet criteria.