Marguerite
Active Member
No intent to blame, I assure you. And educating your kids is no proof of their safety. All I said was, it seems to be the best you can do. Sadly, it is not enough.
Even keeping the kids closely supervised is not enough - easy child was well supervised, but the teachers were focussing their attention out, not in. Why would they expect a child rapist to also be a child? I could not blame the school staff. Perpetrators are generally very determined and will not only use every possible opportunity, but will manufacture those opportunities, often going to great lengths. These are not crimes of happenstance or coincidence - these are predators. My old friend's experience with her second husband is a case in point - he wanted access to children so he deliberately sought a single mother. That she was also a teacher was a bonus. He encouraged her to tutor students at home and to do further study. While he was married to her, he was getting free access to every child who entered that house, at the same time staying below the radar because he seemed 'safe' until it was far too late. When my friend's daughter began to refuse to have sex with her stepfather, he then lost all pretence and interest in sex with his wife (the girl's mother). The entire ten year marriage had been fraudulent, but it was only obvious with clear hindsight. And she is a very intelligent woman. She had been totally fooled, and by an expert.
Marg
Even keeping the kids closely supervised is not enough - easy child was well supervised, but the teachers were focussing their attention out, not in. Why would they expect a child rapist to also be a child? I could not blame the school staff. Perpetrators are generally very determined and will not only use every possible opportunity, but will manufacture those opportunities, often going to great lengths. These are not crimes of happenstance or coincidence - these are predators. My old friend's experience with her second husband is a case in point - he wanted access to children so he deliberately sought a single mother. That she was also a teacher was a bonus. He encouraged her to tutor students at home and to do further study. While he was married to her, he was getting free access to every child who entered that house, at the same time staying below the radar because he seemed 'safe' until it was far too late. When my friend's daughter began to refuse to have sex with her stepfather, he then lost all pretence and interest in sex with his wife (the girl's mother). The entire ten year marriage had been fraudulent, but it was only obvious with clear hindsight. And she is a very intelligent woman. She had been totally fooled, and by an expert.
Marg