Hello everyone. I'm a brand new member here and I'm looking for some people to talk to about the situation I'm currently going through with my 19 year old lying, stealing, out of control daughter. I have always had problems with my younger daughter but over the past few years it's gotten out of control. Me and my younger daughter have never gotten along. I have a great relationship with my older daughter but the younger one is a completely different story. She's just not a good person and and is an extremely deceitful and conniving, terrible human being. Always had a problem with authority - used to get calls from school she would threaten teachers, principals, etc. She also has a long history of lying about everything, used to cut school constantly (she dropped out in 10th grade by the way) and has gotten into many fistfights. Her father has never been involved in her life and she resents me for it. I can count on one hand the amount of times they've met. No desire to be in her life. We fight about that constantly among other things. Things started getting worse about 6 years ago when we moved from New York to new jersey. She resents me for it. Says I've ruined her life, taken her away from her friends, moved her into a white trash redneck dump...ever since then we've grown even further apart and we fight constantly. Since moving to jersey she's been in countless fistfights, dropped out of school in 10th grade, she even punched me in the face almost 2 years ago...she was arrested and put on probation and stayed in jail for one night. Had to pay a fine but the judge only gave her a disorderly conduct charge. She laughs about it and tells me I deserved it, says she would do it again. She curses at me, screams and yells at me, punches holes in the walls, threw a drink at me a few weeks ago and laughed about it. My daughter is also very lazy and has no work ethic. Sleeps all day. Goes to bed at 4,5,6,7 in the morning. She hasn't had a job since July of 2014 and all she does is party and goes out for days without calling. She also constantly has money and I have no idea how. The other day she came in with bags of brand new clothes. Asked her where does someone with no job get $$ to buy clothes. Told me to go f*ck myself. She is a nightmare. However, she does have some goals. Even though she dropped out of school she's currently trying to get her GED. She applies to jobs but it's hard for her to find one because she has no diploma. She also quit the last job she had and then gets mad that she doesn't have one and hasn't had a job since last summer. She's had about 4 or 5 jobs in total! Most 19 year olds have only had one or two - and she quit all of them!! Again, no work ethic. Says job gets "boring". She wants to move back to New York and go to cosmetology school. Never wants to see my "fat face" among other words, again. I must admit that I'm at fault for a lot of the fights as well. I have serious anger issues and am currently on antidepressants (which my darling daughter has stolen from me before by the way) and I've hit her too which I know is wrong but she drives me crazy. Anyway, I've written a lot and now I should get to the main point of this thread. Recently I was going to take my older daughter + my two grandchildren out to dinner. Had heart attack when I was told my account was frozen by IRS. My younger daughter tried to purchase a cell phone online because she wanted to go to New York to meet a boy - however we live in a very rural part of jersey and we're about 4 hours away. Says she needed a phone so she could get in touch with him when she was going to New York. Anyway for some reason or another she somehow alerted my bank and the charge didn't go through and is only listed as "pending". Long story short, IRS tried to get money from my account because I've been paying them in installments. However the pending charge for the cell phone made IRS unable to get the money they needed. It's very confusing. IRS froze my account and I have to go to the office later today to see what can be done. Besides everything I've mentioned theres so many other problems. Someone please help me. I don't know what to do. Should I press charges? Kick her out? I'm going crazy! Help!