My three year old daughter is pretty good - Most of the time. However, when it comes to getting ready, for preschool, bed or church, she is usually a terror. She screams, cries, hits, kicks and generally throws a tantrum. Taking things away does not work - not even Christmas presents. She has been late to school a few times because she just would not get ready. If I was working FT, I do not know what I would do. We go through this almost every day. Then, she cannot understand why she has lost so many things. I give her plenty of chances, often taking over five minutes to actually count to three. I am at a loss. I do not believe in spanking; neither does her dad. He is calm most of the time and, if he does get upset , he leaves the room, sometimes going outside. I get mad when she hits me or throws things but I try to maintain my calm always. At this time, we are staying with my parents, as well as her ten year old brother PT. My dad is the ultimate in... pretty much everything. My mother is hysterical most of the time and I just try to keep them away from each other whenever her mood is bad. When I am getting my daughter ready, it is usually just me, sometimes her dad. I have researched, trying to figure out what to do. Most people, who offer advice, do so with the intention of helping a child who is always, or almost always, in this mode. My problem is specific and I don't know what to do anymore. Can anyone help me? Does anyone have any advice?